My bf and i have been together for a little over 10 months and over the last two or three weeks we have been a

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arguing over practically nothing and everything has been great up until a few weeks ago but he has been wanting to go out with his mates and he turned around to me last week and said he needs a break but we can still talk just not see each other as much he says hes not gonna break up with me and he loves me he just needs his space but i dont wanna be away from him im a jealous person and jump to the worst conclusions all the time and im afraid that if he doesnt see me he may not still love me i dont know wat to do pls help me ....
im almost 20 and he is 19 and we are both Aussies

it really hurts me to be away from him i dont like it at all I LOVE HIM!!!

Answer 1

If you love him you must trust him not to hurt you. He is maybe wanting this because you are to clingy and he doesn't know any other way to say I need to spend time with some of my friends. Jealousy is also a good reason for this change
in him do you have anything to be jealous about? If he has never hurt you emotinally or anything just give the guy a break.
If he says he loves you he will be coming back to you.

God Bless and stop being so paranoid.

Answer 2

well if you love him give him space, its time he needs space. U need to trust him with all your heart. He loves you back guarantee me that...just you got to give him that space, a relationship isn't all about being together ALL the time 356 Days a year and 24 hours a day...give him the break...its not like he is gonna cheat on you. You two just have been having arguments and stuff...he needs some time away from you, where he can actually breathe. Try your best to stop arguing after the break and during the break. And during a break you don't see nor talk to eachother...its called a break...thats why you don't talk nor see eachother...if you see or talk at all its not a break...you get what i mean???

Answer 3

Well first and foremost you need to deal with your jealousy issues! You can't expect a guy to want to see you all of the time. You sound as though the two of you have smoothered each other and he is near death unless he gets a breath of fresh air. Let him breathe. And believe me, just because a guy is always around doesn't necessarily mean he is loving you and only you. Give him so space just as he has asked. Stop being so jealous. You may push your man away. Plus the two of you are young! Remember that!

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you have to find out the hard way that most "BOYS" are like that. They tire easily of relationships,,, most of the time it is for a fling, or to do things that they do not want their mate involved in. That is the difference between boys and men. Men take a lot longer to get into a relationship, but are sure once they do. Boys rush in happy to have the sex and security for a while. Boys can never be trusted, but are in life for the fun,,, Men have lived long enough to know that they should not spend their life being so selfish. Don't get me wrong,,, older guys can still be Boys,,, it all depends on how dearly they hold the relationship. Good luck and I hope he learns his lesson before he looses you.

Answer 5

ugh im the same way, i hate it but i realized that in order for the relatiinship to work out u have to be independent, and trust him, at least his not 21 like my bf and can go wherever he wants, unless w.e, anyway... yeah u need to learn how to trust him and how to be able to not be with him all the time, last night was one of the first nights i went out with my gfs and not him, we've been together for almost 2 yrs and it was a great experience having some space for one night, u will need it, becasue if u dnt give each other space then this is gonna happen to u, hes gonan ask u for a break all the time. just learn to be a bit more independent, go out wiht ur friends.

Answer 6

The most important aspect to any relationship is trust whether it is bf/gf, husband/wife, or friendship. You both should be able to trust one another if you want things to work out. Maybe his reason for needing space involves a commitment issue since you have been dating for quite sometime and seem to be serious. He could be scared of taking things to the next step. He needs to spend time with his friends to keep in touch with who he really is. My boyfriend and I had a similar problem so we compromised. We have set aside certain days during the week to be together and the other days are reserved for family, friends, and school. Good luck and I hope things work out!

Answer 7

I know it hurts, but the best thing you can do for yourself and this relationship is give him that space he is requesting. It is really hard, but in the long run if you do what he asks he will feel more comfortable with this relationship. If you cling, he will move farther away.

Don't jump to conclusions during this time, it will only drive him away. Believe it or not...when you can freely give the guy the space he desires, he tends to move closer to you. But you have to really do it, not just say you are doing it. Get around your friends and keep yourself busy during this time. It will pass, and you will be the better for it.

Answer 8

Just because you are away from each other doesn't mean the love will change.

I used to be crazy jealous too. It was because I wasn't secure in who I was. I had trust issues. But then I learned that if my boyfriend wanted to be with me, it didn't matter if we were together or apart, we still loved each other.

I trust my boyfriend. I trust what he tells me. He trusts what I tell him. Sometimes we need to be apart because there is such a thing as spending too much time together.

Instead of thinking about him when you are away from him, find some things that you enjoy doing by yourself. Don't be afraid to be alone. Find things that are just yours, and no one else's. I read and write in my blog. These are things that I enjoy doing when I'm alone. And sometimes, I don't want my boyfriend around when I'm reading because I value my alone time. He also needs alone time. He likes to play video games, and he doesn't want me bugging him every two minutes.

Another thing, when he goes out with his friends, take those opportunities to go out with yours!

You can love him all you want, but you don't need to be with him 24/7. If you do, it just makes your insecurity worse.

Answer 9

At least you can admitt you are a jealous person. He obviously senses that as well which may be why he feels he needs this space. The more space you give him ... and yourself ... the better.
I just have to ... I can't help it. It makes me gag but here goes:
"If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was"
Ask yourself why the jealousy thing? If he was as jealous as to get upset when you went out with your mates and felt abandoned, how would it make you feel?

Answer 10

Did you know that jealousy can kill relationships? It really can. If you really love this guy, you need to give him some space with his mates. He isn't the problem, but your jealousy is. And I don't want to hurt you by saying this but it needs to be said... Jealousy is really insecurity rearing it's ugly head... I'm sure your bf really does care for you. The problem is you not having enough confidence in yourself... perhaps you don't think he can love you really and that's where all the wrong conclusions comes in... If you work on your own self-confidence and loving yourself more, you won't think your guy is out with other girls.... really. It truly does work. I know, because I've been exactly where you are....

Good luck.... and keep in mind that your jealousy can kill this relationship.... If you really love him, you need to learn to have faith in him.... by loving yourself and having faith that you are a loveable person....