I fear my gf doesnt want to be with me anymore.?

Question

Well, my gf and I have been together for about 1 year and about 4 months. We used to be happy and always want to spend every second together. Our sex life was great. We loved eachother, I met her parents and her WHOLE family and they all loved me. I get along great with all of her family and talk like if I was family. Well, up until 5 months ago, i started to feel like she didnt like me anymore. The sex was gone, she was more interested in being with her friends, and arguments happen alot. Although she claims to love me, I dont feel loved as much because she hardly ever shows me affection(very little) She is a good girl, smart, pretty, and a very nice person. She is a very good girl overall. Lately ive been feeling like she doesnt like me but shes too nice to break my heart, so she doesnt do it. We see eachother every day, so its almost like shes tired of me, although I would never get tired of her. What could cause this? Could she have someone else?Does she love me? Help!

She is also a very independent person. Although I feel like this, she claims to not imagine her life without me, or me not being there. We have had issues about our sex life, as I want sex and she seems to think that sex is all I want from her, but I dont understand, since its been 5 months since we've had sex, and i try to not want to have sex as much. Since I hold it in so much, it builds up and makes me want her.We had an argument when she told me that all I want is sex, and i told her that if thats how she feels about me then we should break up because its not all I want her for.She didnt break up with me and just told me that its how it feels I feel like she has lost hope with me and just wants me to break up with her instead of her breaking up with me. I hate feeling like this, but I love her more than anything in this world. I cant help feeling this way.

Answer 1

You're probably right. Unfortunetly, she probably got bored of the relationship and is to nice to tell you. The best thing you can do is give her space. Tell her how you feel and tell her that maybe she needs some time to think about whether or not she wants to be with you. More than likely, during her "break", she'll realize how much she cares for you and miss you and she will want you back. Sometimes you just have to show us what we're missing! Good Luck! Oh, one more thing, don't act like you are just so upset and that you can't live without her. Kinda play a little hard to get. If she knows that she can have you back in a snap of a finger, it will more than likely happen again.

Answer 2

It's quite possible she is tired of you. Give her space and find something else to focus on. I'm not saying to ignore her but try to worry less about how much attention she's not giving you and wonder why your making this such a big deal.

I don't know if she loves you or not but the easiest way to find out what is going on is to be direct and ask her what's going on.

If you used to have sex all the time and now you don't have sex at all then you need to address that. Young sex drives don't usually just die.

It really sounds like you need focus on yourself a little more and open up the lines of communication with your girl a bit more.

Answer 3

I think that you guys spent too much time together and that she misses being with her girl friends. Maybe she really does love you and she doesn't want to break up she just needs a break with being with you every second of her life. You should talk to her about it. If you guys really do love each other you will be able to talk about your problems. Hope that everything works out good luck....

Answer 4

You need to understand that people's needs to change with time. Give her some personal space. When there's opportunity, without sounding too harsh, ask her if she's stress from work or if there's anything that's bothering her. Unless you allow her to 'open' up she may be frustrated within and love you so much that it hurts her to see you saddled with her problems or issues. Communication is the most vital link for all successful relationships.

Answer 5

Chances are you've become to easy. Girls like a challenge and if there's no challenge she's probably bored...doesn't mean she doesn't love you but if it keeps going the way it is...she will dumpyou. (been there and yes...I did that) So...as cliche as it sounds....start to play hard to get...don't be so available for her. Make plans that don't include her. Trust me...she'll come back around and it won't take long.

Answer 6

Sit down, and ask her about it. It wont hurt anything ( i dont think ) she may just want a little time with her friends.. maybe her friends are feeling the same way.. maybe she doesnt like me. Get out and hang with your friends. And the agruments.. it could just be mood swings.

Answer 7

Ever heard the term absence makes the heart grow fonder? Maybe you both could benefit from a little me time.

Answer 8

Get out now! Imagine being married to this person for 50 years. You think it's bad now. You said it yourself 'loved each other', that's past tense. You answered your own question.

Answer 9

you need to sit her down and let her know how you feel. if it is true that she no longer wants to be with you then this would be the time for her to bring it up and you'll need to let her know. girls are talkers, they talk out their problems. maybe tlak to her friends prior to the talk the two of you have, but in the same day. if you talk to them a day or two before she'll know what;s coming. but yea...just tlak to her.

Answer 10

whats changed ? is the question u must ask yourself. It seems that she dosent feel attraction for u. Maybe u were funny in the beninging and as time went on became boreing. ...