he was like my dad and he was someone that i could always count on. tears........................ how in the world do i get over this very hard and disturbing obstical?
2007-03-18 14:01:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what i do is CRY, i know it sounds mean that i am telling you to cry but you need to get it all out of your system.. i also listen to dark music like evanescence because it makes me stronger on the inside! i am really sorry about your loss and i really hope this helped!!
2007-03-18 14:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by .:Your Guardian Angel:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in basically the same situation about 2 years ago. I remember the day, my mother told me after breakfast, and I cried so much I did not go to school, the crying stopped but then at his funeral I couldn't help crying more. Here's how I got over it, I shed as many tears as I had to, and I talked to my dad about it and we bonded closely cause of this tragedy. Also I read a short speech for his eulogy. Talk to whoever parent your grandfathers side of the family was on, and cry if you feel you have to, don't hold it in. IF given the oppurtunity saying some last words at a funeral or if his funeral already happened, his grave might be comforting as well. I feel bad for what you are going through, but I beleive with a somewhat reflective attitude you can remember that after mourning his death, you can celebrate his life.
2007-03-18 21:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you never get over it. But you do have to move on. He will always be a part of you. My dad died 2 years ago and the best thing I can do he remember him as he was. I remembering when it first happened I couldn't even look at his eyeglasses because they were his but now I treasure the things that he had. You will never forget. I can talk about him now without crying. So time is what you need. Never forget him. He was a part of your life and can still be if you remember him for the things he did. Good luck and God bless
2007-03-18 21:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by 38C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really get over it, but time will ease the pain. You have to go on with your life in any case. I lost my grandpa when I was 16 and I just continued on with my life, because I knew that is what he would have wanted me to do. If your a christian prayer helps, and you can always remember that he is in a better place now. God Bless and good luck.
2007-03-18 21:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is hang in there. Don't get over him, remember him. Have dinner with family and friends to remember what made him so special to all of you. Surround yourself with loved ones and be thankful that you had such a great person in your life. I know how you feel, my grandpop just died in October. He was a day short of his 80th birthday. Be strong, you're not alone.
2007-03-18 21:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Matt A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey death is so hard for us all to deal with , i lost my mother and 2 sisters in a car accident .that was 14 years ago and it seems like yesterday . but you take one day at a time allow yourself to cry , talk about your grandpa with family friends anyone who will listen to you . a real friend won't mind listening to you . don't try to hold your feelings inside cry when you feel like crying . you won't get over the pain and missing him . sorry to tell you but you all ways will feel that hurt and miss him as well .but as time passes and again its different for every person but the pain will become less and less and one day you will remember him with only smiles. believe it or not there is something you can do for your grandpa you can do your very best to live your life and be as happy as possible . and in doing so you will be honoring his memory. after all he loved you so much that he would want you to be happy . and that's what i remember when i miss my mom and my sisters . i know in my heart they want me to be happy. you take care and if you need to talk to someone you can message me anytime.
2007-03-18 21:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't.
With time, the shock of the event will wear off and you will be able to deal with the fact that your grandfather is gone, but you will truly "get over" a death.
Remember him fondly, think of the good times. If you like to write, write a journal or letters.
2007-03-18 21:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by NEONhearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, prayer (if you're religious), long walks, and talking about it with friends and relatives. Also by paying tribute to him in ways such as flowers, poems, or simply meditating over the good times you shared with him. Don't expect to get over it overnight....but in a manner of days, weeks, or months. It's natural, don't feel ashamed or burdened by grieving. It's a measure of how much he meant to you.
Peace.
2007-03-18 21:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it. Prayers helps a lot. Think of all the good times. Look at pictures of you and him. Write down how you are feeling at this time.
Pray! Pray! Pray!
2007-03-18 21:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is gonna be a point in time where your loved ones are gonna die and they aren't gonna be around forever.
But if you want to get over don't think about it. Thats all you can do. But it is good to cry...im sure you didn't know that.
2007-03-18 21:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋