Where do I stand with this girl?

Question

Last night was on a first date with this girl which went pretty well but when we went back to mine I had er 'stage fright' and was pretty lousy at $ex. I was a bit disappointed with myself and this probably came across. I texted the girl this evening and made a jokey reference to it and asked her if she'd had a good time. She did get back and tell me she was fine although made no reference to last night. Not sure what she thinks as she did leave a kiss at the end.

Girls (and guys) where do you think I stand. Also, how the hell can I get better at $ex in the meantime?!

Answer 1

You should probably just ask her.

Answer 2

Often the first time you have sex with a new partner it is less then brilliant. What you probably don't realize is that the girl in question is probably just as stressed out as you right now. Yes despite what you may think girls have performance anxiety as well. Speaking as a woman myself I can tell you that the girl in question is probably even stressing about your text too. "What did he mean? Was it directed at his performance or mine?, etc ,etc." What I can tell you in the more you see each other and the more comfortable you feel with one another the better the sex will become.
My best advise to becoming better is to simply listen to the girl and notice what she responds too. Most of all try not to put to much pressure on yourself like I said the more comfortable you get the better the sex will become. And just remember she will be just as nervous and stressed out as you.

Answer 3

Well, you should have never texted her mentioning the negatives about the date. If she doesn't say it first, you dont.

Allow her to call you and ask if you want to go out again. Thats the only way you'll know for sure if she's okay with your 'stage fright'.

As for getting better at sex, it sounds crazy but choke it before the date, that helps me, once the first one is out I can go all night.

Answer 4

Leave it alone. I, as a woman, would feel like you must be insecure in the bed and would make me wonder all the more about you. Maybe slow things down a bit and don't do it again unless she makes the move. When when it's time to eat hunger is the best seasoning. It is the same w/ sex. Sometimes the buildup makes the sex better.

Answer 5

First date sex is often , last date sex . . .
The infamous 'one night stand' .
If you were wanting more than that , you might want to wait until you're pretty sure it is an actual relationship. Girls are more patient with guys if there is a relationship , but you skipped that .
She may be back , she might not . . . we can't tell from here.

Answer 6

No wonder you were nervous you trying to do something very initimate with a complete stranger! Why not wait a while before jumping in the sack! My god is there no romance left in the world! :o)

Answer 7

just let her know you were nervouse, she's a girl. we understand everything. , i think texting her wasn't the right idea. you do have a voice and you should use it, it means more then a text. but maybe she feels tence around you just talk to her face to face

Answer 8

That casual sex is dangerous, but if ya want to get better, you need to communicate with the ladies you sleep with.

Answer 9

one thing i find guys arent good at in bed is that they only think about themselves. worry about getting her off before you even think about getting off yourself! us girls take some time and once you guys are done...your done!

Answer 10

your probably fine...the kissy at the end is the good hint...dont get so worked up...its onlyy sex, it should be fun and liberating....have fun with it and be confident