I need some thoughts and reactions on this. My girlfriend for 5 years just left me and she tells me its how i treat her. She knows that i love her with all my heart and i would do anything for her no matter what. But I was at work and i came home one day and i find all her stuff missing and all i got was a note. Im not going to lie to you i did try to control her sometimes by saying that i dont think she should be hanging out with certain friends. But for the whole five years she said that she loved me with all her heart and she would never leave me no matter what happens. But in the note she left me it mentioned that she loves me with all her heart and she cares about me but she cares about her friends to. She also mentioned that she needs to find herself and what she needs. Also saying that we might get together or we might not. What should I do? Because i hurt so much and all i want is a chance to speak to her.
2007-03-18 13:33:56 · 3 answers · asked by Kdog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Word of advise...if you want her back, leave her be and let her do exactly what she says she wants to do. If you keep pressuring her, she will only drift apart from you. Don't smother her. She wants this time away before she can sink into the real commitment. You should be happy that this is happening now rather than when you guys are married. Sit back, breathe and relax. I know this is hard coming from a total stranger, but trust me try and do this. Try and keep busy. It's all you can do. What are you going to do...obsess over her. Don't!!! Utilize your time more valuably. She will no doubt be thinking about you too every moment she gets. If your time was more or less satisfactory with her as you've indicated she will return. Please let us know how this fans out. I would really like to know. Take care and good luck!!!
2007-03-18 13:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Leona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i hate to say this but when a woman is hurt or up set or crushed cause she think you are to controling and she leaves it's pretty much over been throught this once before. Personally i did the same things and well to put it simple you aren't raising her she is an adult and able to make her own decisions on who she hangs out with and i am sorry to say that no one has a right to judge a person or that persons friends no matter what they think it's called trust. her friends might be bad news but when you make a statement about who she should and shouldn't hang with it make a woman feel untrusted. I guess in a womans mind if her man doesn't trust her then why is she with him you know. I hope this helps and remember for next time trust her and don't worry about her friends she is the one with you not her friends
2007-03-18 13:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go. sometimes people will do anything for another person, that person feels smothered. you said you kind of controlled her too. while shes finding herself, maybe you should take the time to find you.
2007-03-18 13:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋