I am getting married in August 2007! I was engaged in may 2006 and my maid of honor( my best friend) after saying she would be my maid of honor! Called me and said that she really needed to talk to me and could she comeover? So she came over and gave me the great news that she was engaged! I am so happy for her! And then she asked me if it was OK with me that she gets married 3 weeks before me???? Of course i said ok, what kind of friend would i be to say no! and then she asked me to me the maid of honor in her wedding! What do I do??? And now we are having joint everything! Even the bacheloertte parties are one now! I feel that she is taking eveything special away from me! I am really trting not to be selfish but i dont know what to say or how to fix this! I can tell that this is tearing us apart! Help Please!!!
2007-03-18 13:24:19 · 15 answers · asked by BRIDE*2*BE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
heck ya i would be mad
i dont think she thought everything through try to sit her down and have a resenable talk to her, ask her what she would do if you were to do that to her
i feel sorry for you because it may put and probably will put stress on your friendship
good luck to you
2007-03-18 15:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shall be a great event for you and your friend. I understand you want it to be your day too. Talk to your friend a let her know how you feel. Maybe you both can look for dresses together and maybe other things, that's what maid of honors do. If you want everything to be separte let her know that. We all know how brides get when its that time. I'm one of them. And you are not being selfish this is your day too. To make things better let the bacheloertte be separte and you both will have the special days you all have been looking forward to.
Since both of you are getting marry now you are no long called the maid of honor, you all are the matron of honor.
2007-03-18 21:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by snicker4274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the special part was getting married to the guy you love .
The pre-marriage stuff is just some parties .
You wanted her to spend the $$$ to be a maid of honor but you're all antsy over a joint bachelorette party ? I would tell you to find a new maid of honor if it was me . . .
Maybe they are right , some girls spend more time and attention on the wedding than the marriage .
They say those are the first ones in divorce court.
Sorry , you did not say she was planning a double wedding . . . hers is weeks off of yours . . .
Let her know your real personality now ,
So she can get out of your wedding and into hers will real friends.
2007-03-18 20:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by kate 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all, you don't get a month like one user suggested. You get a day. And, you should be happy that you and your best friend are sharing this time together. Your friends and family will be just as happy for you and you will still be the center of attention. So what if you have to share the spotlight with someone else? That someone else is supposed to be your best friend.
What's special is you getting married to your fiancee and your friend is in no way impeding this.
Sounds to me like you are the classic bridezilla. Think about what's really important: you and your fiancee. The rest is just fluff.
2007-03-18 22:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy for her. It is her special time too now. If you didn't want her getting married 3 weeks ahead of your wedding you should have said no when you had the chance.
You made the decision to say yes - so get over yourself and be happy for the both of you.
2007-03-18 21:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually I think it is kinda cool. I do everything and share everything with my best friend. We were even pregnant 3 x together and while everyone else was saying that one or the other of us got pregnant to compete she and I were so excited to share the experience together. Remember this..The most important part of your wedding day is sharing your love for your fiance with everyone. Well, that is just my opinion anyway. I would becareful because you could lose a best friend over this and best friends are a rare find.
2007-03-18 20:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be mad, she is allowed to get married whenever suits her, although it is a little thoughtless of her to book so close to your date. Explain to her that you wish to keep your events as separate events, that way you both get to be "centre of attention" with your respective grooms. Don't let something like this tear you apart, I used to go to a church where there were 16 weddings in a row, one after the other, and the whole congregation was invited to all of them. We had fun at each wedding and each one was different, so don't let it worry you that her wedding is so close to yours.
2007-03-19 10:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are upset. My friend got engaged before I did. I would have preferred to have my wedding sooner, but I made it about 3 months after hers. I wanted us to both have that time in the spot light.
2007-03-19 09:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have the choice to have "joint" NOTHING. That's totally up to you. It's cool that you are each others MOHs, but keep the wedding stuff separate - why are you caving to her? Stand up and be an assertive woman! Change the things you don't like!
2007-03-19 07:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think having a combined bachelorette party with your BEST friend would make it extra special, why would you be mad? Why wouldn't you be her maid of honor? She is your best friend......I don't think you have anything to be mad about
2007-03-18 20:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋