I had 1 girlfriend I had to dump because she was trying to use me to support her drug habit, + found she was doing other guys ummm, because of her habit.
I can't seem to find a woman who doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs, or is monogamous?
The main think I wish is for one who loves me that I can love, who will work with me, & not use me?
Do you think I am asking too much from a woman?
I feel like giving up sometimes!
2007-03-18 13:20:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wait....youll meet her,somehow.
2007-03-18 19:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are real women in the world believe it or not! However there are not many who don't drink, smoke, cuss, etc. I think you are looking for Miss Never. And I hate to tell you that you'll be waiting a long long time for a woman without any vices.
As far as alcohol and drugs go, you just have to start meeting women at different places other than bars and clubs. Start screening them better before throwing your whole heart and soul in to it. You CAN get to know someone without instantly branding them yours' or moving them in.
I think that you are not asking too much when it comes to monogamy. Everyone who has a significant other should be able to trust them.
It's funny, the way you describe above is the same way I feel about men! And boy did I kiss a lot of freakin' frogs before finding my husband.
Sounds like to me that you need to find a woman instilled with honesty and common sense (and you will if you are equipped with the same). I wish you good luck and if that doesn't work, you can always try a dating service.
2007-03-18 21:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but a woman can still smoke or drink and be "real". It's just a question of how much and if they come in conflict with her everyday life. I can understand the drugs and monogamous though. Hmmm...I don't know. Maybe you've been searching in the wrong places because I know some people out there who do none of the four you mentioned. they're die-hard Christians as well (probably why) but yeah. Good luck!
2007-03-18 20:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not asking too much...but it seems you fall into relationships with the wrong kind of women. For example, the minute you found out about her drug habit, why didn't you quit seeing this girl? You have choices in life! You may not know exactly when the right one may come along, but you sure have the choice to pay attention to warning signs...or simply don't date a girl who drinks, smokes, or does drugs.
2007-03-18 20:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by karen p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find someone someday. Perhaps you should be looking for someone who doesn't do drugs. The other problem may not be so easy to face because females today - some of them at least - feel that have just as much right to 'screw around' as do males. While I was in college a few years back, that was the mindset of a lot of the females. They just didn't trust men. If you are young, find yourself someone older. If you are older, find someone younger, with her head on straight. For that matter, give yourself a break and don't date for the next six months. Just look around and see what kind of woman is available.
2007-03-18 20:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by rare2findd 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are definitely women out there who can meet your criteria. But because it is such a tricky arena now, you have to be careful of how quickly you decide to be in a relationship with someone.
It sounds like maybe you need to find a girl who was raised in the church or whose family does not indulge in destructive behavior. Usually if you get to know a persons family before you decide to date them, you can sought of figure out what you are up against.
And although you don't like a woman that smokes or drinks, sometimes you may have to relax some of your expectations of people and then you may just find the woman who does love you for you and not what you have.
2007-03-18 20:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by duncanchild7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up... not all women are like that...
Now when you say drink, do you mean a casual drinker or an alcoholic? Because I don't think there is anything wrong with a casual drinker, but anyways, don't give up hope, I promise you will find someone..
If your older than 19, then try some dating sites.. if your under 19 then get some friends to hook you up with someone you'd like.
2007-03-18 20:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously looking in the wrong places. I see women on Y!A that have the same problems with men and they think such a good man doesn't exist. I guess it takes some people a lot longer to hook up with the right type of person than it does others.
2007-03-18 20:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't give up. Just like they say good men are hard to find, I guess we are in the same boat. Well I can speak for some women. Because I am a good women and I have been told. But, us good women are in hiding because we have been hurt bad and don't want to be hurt again. So you have to keep looking until you run into one. That good woman for you is out there some where.
2007-03-18 20:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there are real women out there. There is always a women who is asking if there are any real men out there. It is just a matter of looking hard enough and in the right places. Maybe you should try not hanging out with stoners or drunks. There is always a girl out there who wants exactly what you want. Keep looking and you could make a girl really happy.
2007-03-18 20:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ivy D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not asking too much. Everyone in life want someone who loves them as much as they love that person. There are still lots of real women out there. All you have to do is look for it because they are rare and not easy to find. Be patient and you will find her someday. Don't give up hope yet.
2007-03-18 20:26:13 · answer #11 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋