He has started a relationship with a woman, I am sure she loves him..He is a user, and abuser..willl steal her blind and move on..do I as a woman who has been there...tell her..and how do I do it..I feel I owe it to her..as a human...there is not one redeeming quality to him...I know this...because he is still living with me...and has never told her...He lied and told her that he is living with a guy from work...by the way..I cant get him to leave...he comes to my house ...to talk to her on the computer....
2007-03-18 13:12:59 · 9 answers · asked by kakja5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are children involved
2007-03-18 14:59:40 · update #1
This woman has the right to know that he is living with you. Wait till he is gone and then invite her over so you can show her his stuff in your house. This way she has proof. Of course you can get him to leave if you want him to leave. But truthfully, you have feelings for him and you don't want him to leave. And you don't want to tell this other woman stuff to help her out, you want to tell her so she stops contact with him, and you have him to yourself again. It is relatively inexpensive to change the locks on your house. You can buy new locks from the store and maybe you can find a family member to change them for nothing. Even if you have to pay someone to change the locks, it will be worth it. Then wait till he leaves for work, have the locks changed, and pack all of his stuff up and leave it in the driveway for him to get when he comes back. Make sure you are either gone when he comes back, or have some friends with you when he comes back. After this, do not concern yourself with him or any of his future girlfriends. You can do better than what you are doing. You deserve to be happy and have a normal boyfriend. Good luck.
2007-03-18 13:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first i was going to tell you to mind your own business, that she would eventually figure it out on her own. But then, i read the part about him still living with you and lying about it. That, in my opinion, makes it your business. If nothing else, I would do it just to run him off. However, she probably will think you are just a bitter ex girlfriend who is lying about him. Maybe you could do it over messenger or myspace. It might be easier that way. Or hell, maybe just call her and straight up say what you got to say. Whats the worst that could happen? She hangs up on you. BIg deal.
2007-03-18 13:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Robin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don’t tell her. If your ex is truly crazy then stay away from her. If you really think she needs to know have someone else tell her. Her ears will be closed if she hears it from you. I would only have a concern for her well being if he had hospitalized another human in the past and has no remorse over it.
Sometimes silence is best.
2007-03-18 13:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by alkimmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advise I can give you is for you to face up to the fact that he is still living with you and you haven't kicked him out yet and you have to face the fact that you need to and be rid of him. He is going to keep on looking for others and hurting them and you do not need to be the one to face that. So kick him out and be a good person. Let her learn the hard way the way you have and get him out of your life and away from him and let her learn the hard way herself. You did.
2007-03-18 13:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by oldestme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all! if those things that you are saying about your estranged ex are true, then please why are you allowing him to live with you. Not to be rude but it seems to me that you want the lieing stealing and beating all to yourself. So my answer to this is simple if he is living with you then tell her b/c i assume that you still love the guy, if it bothers you lock your computer!
2007-03-18 13:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to tell my ******* fathers g/f how he was and she didnt believe me and Im sure she wont believe you but i think and this is what im gonna do you should just let her find out how he is and tell him to get the **** out or get the police to send him packing!!!!!!
2007-03-18 13:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she will just think that you are jealous. By the way, how do you expect her to get rid of him? You can't get rid of him and you supposedly hate him. She LOVES him!
2007-03-18 13:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him in your house. And don't stick your nose it, let her figure it out. She will just think you are a jealous ex.
2007-03-18 13:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea tell her
2007-03-18 13:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋