Love problem.....please answer?

Question

my problem is that i assumed to a girl that i liked her
but im very shy and did it by sms ( it was the first time i admit it to someone)
She was next to me in the classsroom, and i tried to say something to her
Then , in the next day the teacher change the sits, and she went to the sit behind me.
I send her more sms, saying that i dont like her and more stupids things, but in the valentins day i send her a letter saying that i love her.
we were suposed to meet alone in school to talk about this, but she said that she couldnt because she had to resolve one problem of a friend.
Since then we never more talked , and i have been ignoring her, and she ignoring me.
In the other day when u get out of class and there was only me, her and one friend of mine she started to look at me, and i just ignored her, and i just wanted to get out of there.
This is the whole history, but before of this we had a good friendship, i helped her a lot and she talked of all of her problems...

... and she said she trust me, and told me that she like of one guy( but she dont know how he is, she likes him just by aspect)
I dont want to ignore her for my whole life, if i cant haver her i wanna be friends, but it will be hard because i have to talk to her in private, and she is always with her friends...
So the question is that if i should continue to ignore her or try to talk to her again

Answer 1

Please, DON'T ignore her. I have went through this situation before. I can tell that both of you are in an awkward situation and don't exactly know what to do. I can tell that you care for her alot, but she's never really 'avaliable' to talk to. All, I have to say is that ignoring her will not solve the problem. Well, I don't think 'ignoring is the right word'. I think that you mean you are 'avoiding' her. I think she wants totalk to you as much as you want to talk to her- but you both don't know what to say to each other.

When this situation happened to me, I was superly stressed because I wondered what was going in the boy's mind that I liked. I think that if you just tell her that you at least want to be friends, even though you'd prefer to be her boyfriend.

Oh my gosh, this just reminds me SO MUCH of what happened to me. Just, don't ignore her- it only makes things worse, and your relationship more distant. I think that you should talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel. (despite how shy you are).

P.s.: Shy guys slightly frustrate me! lol. I want shy guys to not be so shy, and tell me what they think. =] Work on not being so shy! It's sometimes frustrating.

Thanks for having a question that I can answer! - Love, kay

Answer 2

First, quit being shy. It's not ever going to help you with anything in your life. You hate being shy, don't you? Well, then stop it. Who cares if she's with her friends or not!? Say hi to her friends too but don't let the fact that she has friends around her everytime stop you from talking to her. Her friends are going to influence what she thinks of you so you might as well show that you're a nice guy to her friends but that you are interested only in her.

Grow some big, sweaty balls and the next time you see her, put a big grin on your face and ask how she's been doing. Keep the conversation going by telling her what you've been up to since the last time you guys have talked to each other.

If you click, then ask her out to go to the movies. If things go smoothly, then keep seeing her and when the time is right, ask her to be your girlfriend.

If things don't click, then go back to ignoring her. You've been ignoring her anyway, it's not much of a big difference to go back to doing so again.

Either way, good luck!

Answer 3

Ouch join the club...try asking her out and if she says no...Just be free and let it be.