2007-03-18 12:53:44 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. Q 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes, the best thing you can say is nothing at all. You can offer a hug, or just being there for them, whether it is to let them cry; or if they want to talk, or if they just want to be with someone and not talk at all.
2007-03-18 13:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I lost my dad, my friend drove an hour from a campground to be with me... she was there for me though the whole thing, and she was always there to talk to. All you can do is be there... never complain about anything. My friend was like that and she was right with me at the funeral, she was always there... she probably saved me from breaking down several times. She held me up when I was crying my eyes out, when I thought everything was destroyed, when I came home after the accident, she was there. That's all you can do. Just be there... trust me- from experience, that's all we need when we loose someone that close...
Oh, and PS- NEVER ask them if they're okay. That annoyed me so much... my friend knew not to. Never ever ask anyone that... nothing's ok then. Nothing is...
2007-03-18 13:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't, for any reason, say you understand unless you have also lost a parent. Because you don't if you haven't.
Just let them know that you're there for them if they need someone to talk to and that you're terribly sorry. Don't push them about it though, sometimes there can be too much nice.
They will probably need a lot of personal, alone time in the healing process. Let them come to you when they need you, but don't force yourself on them.
I'm sorry about your friend's loss..
2007-03-18 12:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ashli B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I lost my parent, the hardest thing for me to answer was "how am I doing"? I mean, how did they THINK I was doing?? What helped me the most was someone coming up and saying "I'm sorry for your loss. Let me know if you need a shoulder." Simple sincerity. Another thing, please DON'T go up to them and say "they are in a better place". The sympathy isn't really for the person who is gone, it is for the person who is left behind. Good luck....
2007-03-18 12:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kk, there are two phases when someone suffers a loss, the first one is that everything is going to be okay, then the second one is a great big slump where they feel terrible. you have to be there to keep them company during both phases. don't talk about it unless they want to, otherwise just try to think of something to do to cheer them up like playing monopoly or just giving them a great big hug
i hope that helped
2007-03-18 13:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by drummerboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to say amything. You just have to be next to that person whenever your friend needs you!! Just be friendly, and listen to what your friend have to say! But try not to say anything about your friend's parent!
2007-03-18 13:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can really do is be there for them and cry with them and let them tell you whatever he or she needs to say... theres not to much to say when someone passes cuz nothing really will make them feel better but time... just spend as much time with your friend as you can ..
2007-03-18 12:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by meryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time ppl who lost their parent(s) want life to go on as normal. say you are sorry maybe once but dont mention it over and over unless they want to talk, they want to pretend it doesnt happen.
2007-03-18 12:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes just being there for them is enough.you don't have to say anything.hold there hands and let them talk it out.your presence as a friend is a good thing.
2007-03-18 12:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Chris y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to say anything just be there for them a shoulder to cry on and a person to listen to them
2007-03-18 12:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋