ok i have a bf that lives 6 hours away from me. i LOVe him a lot but sometimes i jus cant trust him. we have plans to move in together soon like in 5 months or so. BUT i've been talking to a friend for like a month and he is a real sweet heart w/me. i know he likes me cause he told me a lot of times already. He lives close to me and we go out to dance sometimes on weekends... my bf is a sweet heart too but sometimes his mom gets mad at me. she doesn't like me very much she even told me that he had another girl and i told him and he said that she just said that cause she doesn't want us together. so i believed him.... my parents don't like him for me either......
so what do i do????
should i give my friend a chance and leave my bf? OR should i stay with my love and don't listen to anyone's thoughts and be happy with mi amor????
please give me good advice!
2007-03-18 12:46:15 · 4 answers · asked by cristina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't mention your age, but from what you wrote, I gathered enough about your level of maturity. You're a soap opera; nothing but drama. Leave the guy you still refer to as your b/f. You have, in the important ways, already left him. The relationship you have with your 'friend' is inappropriate. True g/f's don't 'go out' dancing with another guy, ever. It's called 'emotional infidelity'. Secondly, a guy that's a 'friend' is just a guy that hasn't had sex with you yet. Guy's don't go to dance clubs to dance. To a guy, {at your phase of maturation}the friend position is just a place to wait while you become increasingly comfortable around him; this ensures he's next in line. Good luck. It sounds like you have a couple more years of this akward drama before you move out of the "Identity vs Identity confusion" phase. It's the 5th phase that you'll go thru and it is where dancing, 'going out', dating, alcohol, specific brand named clothing, make up, hair, and music all become increasingly important to you. You'll feel the need to be around other people at clubs, house parties, social events becuz without knowing it, you'll be comparing yourself to your peers and how they dress, act etc. People your age do this to help define the perception of their 'self' and where you fit in society. But you'll just be doing these things becuz you think they're 'fun'. Take care.
2007-03-18 14:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by annoyed_with_the_other_answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u shouldstay w/ the one u know u love in your heart regardless of what others say!!!
2007-03-18 19:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend and you have one difference too many
2007-03-18 19:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you Really love him?And how long have you been together?
2007-03-18 19:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by tine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋