Being with someone whom don't really give a damn about me...What shld i do? Why is he behaving like that?

Question

I'm currently with this guy for abt 3months. i felt insecure with him. When he speaks, i tends to feel that he doesnt care about things i'm doing. He says things like "what ever","up to you","see how" He seldom tell me that he loves or misses me. Maybe once in a blue moon.But he kept telling me that he might not treat me as good as how he treated his ex-gf. As he had a great fall when his with her. He also ask me not to treat him so well as he can't repay me back. But the problem is i never want anything in return. His quite popular among girls.He needs space for his work and once he made up his mind, no one can change it.I used to stick to my ex but now i'll find stuff to occupy my time, instead of calling him or meet up with him. Every sentence he say to me i took it to heart. But ended up hurting myself upon hearing those.I broke off with my previous cos of him. Should i hold on to him? Is he still thinking about his past? Is he just playing with me? How can i improve

But it only happenes wen his nt with me. The moment we're together like his hse or meet ups, his nv like tt. he jokes around wif me. i told him be4 tt his words hurt me den he told me that he didnt knoe. i like to stare at him while his doin his work. His talented in design. Now his serving e army. the army wants to send him to thai for a yr. n recently his inspector wans him to go fer some sort of inspector training w/o cuming back home fer a month. i'm now worrying abt e future.

Answer 1

Once I heard someone said, love is just like our hands, with 5 fingers on each palm. But if there were 9 fingers on one palm, and one finger on the other, we will have problem. You may not want anything in return, but if love is only giving and without return, it's just like 2 hands with 9 & 1 fingers on either palm. It can never work out.

Answer 2

I think it's your fault from the beginning , first of all you broke off with your previous cos of him ,didn't you ask yourself is this the man that I broke off cos of him ? , i think the answer is NO , you such a kind heart person that you keep on trying to make him satisfy and you never want anything in return , and he instead of giving you some appreciation , he abuses you , I think he doesn't deserve you . wait for one that can love you the way you love him .

Answer 3

What he is doing is called emotional and verbal abuse. It's wrong and has nothing to do with love.
You say you want nothing in return. That's crap. The LEAST you should EXPECT from him is to be civil to you.
Move on. Dump his pathetic butt.
You deserve better. I also suggest you seek some counseling to figure out why you would choose to be with someone who treats you like dirt. You need to raise some standards of the people in your life and find people who treat you decent!

Answer 4

seems its a "one way street" babe. seems time to move on and not waste your precious time. it'll hurt but it'll go off . . . it always does and depends on you...how soon.

once a heart has changed, its no point making it turn back . . . it'll somehow return to its other self.

love dont and never needs forcing but the willingness of the heart.