I have been with my bf for almost 3 years. We were in the same state and I asked him to move in together, he said he is not ready. So I decided to move back to where I was from originally, for financial reasons. I knew I should have broke it off then, but he wouldnt let go, and we kept seeing each other, long distance relationship.It became very difficult for me to keep this relationship, as I slowly lost friends, I felt I was married to him but never could do anything with him ( because he is not here) and because my friends are gone ( he is jealous). He kept talking about marriage, and wanting me to move there. So I told him, propose to me and I will move. He wouldnt, saying it is either the money, or we argue too much... etc.. I became so angry w him all the time, b/c he wouldnt give me what I wanted, I wanted to be with him, and by his side,but he always acted ok with the distnce. I was the only one with the urge to be 2gether. Why didnt he propose if he loves me ?
2007-03-18 12:29:33 · 13 answers · asked by Mx2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Froget it, he's just being selfish by keeping you around. he really doesn't wanna marry you, but h talks about it to tell you what you wanna hear.
Move on girl, work on your friendships and find someone who CAN be there for you, not manipulate you from afar.
2007-03-18 12:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm?....He sounds kind of fishy(no disrespect to you what so ever) but if he has a girlfriend like you that truly love him, as I can tell by your tone that you really care about this guy, but he won't budge a bit. I think he's either afraid of committment or he's using you as a rebound, just so if he can't get a better catch then he will crawl back to you. I'm a man myself, I must say he doesn't have a true character of a man, if he claims that he loves you, wants to be with you, and talks about marriage all time, then he should have proposed you or at least be there for you physically and emotionally(if money is his issue to start a family).
I'm sorry that he's not the guy that you want him to be but if you still love him, just try to pursuade him or "beat some senses into him" if that is what it take for him to realize what a wonderful girlfriend you are to him.
Just tell him that if he doesn't want you, someone will come and snatch you away from him, only then he will regret and he will cry all days and nights while holding your picture and reminisce all the great memories that you have given to him in almost the past three years.
I wish you the best of luck on your relationship!
2007-03-18 12:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a man, I'll take a shot at this
I'm guessing that he does not want to get married because he'd lose his "space" he has with you now. I don't know the details of your relationship, but to me, he's coming up with a lot of excuses to not get married, instead of the solutions to make it happen. If money, arguments and stuff like that are making uneasy about getting married, maybe he should start coming up with solutions to make the marriage work. As a guy, I would love being in his position. I get a g/f, but no marriage. I get my free time and space, since it's a long distance relationship. I've been in long distance relationships, and there are lots of bad days ahead of you two, unless solutions are brought to the table instead of the problems. Tell him to marry you and you're leaving him, see what he does then.
Giving you my 3 cents, and accepting my 2 pts
JW
2007-03-18 12:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, at last something I know a little bit about.
You need to have a serious talk with this guy about getting on with your life...with or without him. Either put a light at the end of the tunnel, that you can both work toward, or don't, and move on. Talking about marriage without actually proposing is only for two things: fear of rejection and manipulation without commitment. I think in this case the latter is obvious. He KNOWS what you want and is just stringing you along. Three years is enough...if you can't work it out...you need to get your life back before you get any older.
Then we can go out, but only if you want to move to Texas. ;)
2007-03-18 12:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he is keeping you from your friends, he's not really good for you. Each relationship needs trust and needs time apart to do you things.
I'm not saying he doesn't love you, but he just doesn't sound like the kind of love anyone deserves. Sometimes two people care about each other, but just shouldn't be together.
Now, besides that, if he's not ready to marry, then he's not ready to marry. You should never force someone into that. If it's that important to you, then you should move on from him and try to find someone who is looking to settle down now.
I have been with my boyfriend for 8yrs. We have talked about marriage, but just haven't done so yet. We are both VERY happy with each other. It's just that marriage, to us, will eventually be part of us, but it doesn't make "us".
Good luck!
2007-03-18 12:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is a few distance too quickly. i'm speaking from a 19 300 and sixty 5 days previous stand element yet I even have been courting my lady chum for over 3 years. tell him which you're feeling an identical and which you finally choose to get married yet its no longer the time suitable now and to in line with possibility carry off for no less than some months. sturdy success!
2016-12-18 17:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games with you. He is manipulative. The only reason he ever talks about marriage is becasue he knows that its what you want and if he totally nixes the subject, you will know he's never going to amrry you, and you'll totally leave him. If he keeps talking about marriage, he can keep stringing you along.
2007-03-18 12:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not ready for committment. He may never be. Get on with your life. Dont force him to get married or you will regret it. He either wants to on his own or forget it. You will only let yourself in for a lifetime of heartache
2007-03-18 12:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhh...another classic case of non-committal rearing its ugly head..another case of 'im not sure i want you, but i dont really want anyone else to have you either'..we see alot of that around lately, must be a plague of sorts~
2007-03-18 12:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by wild1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes sounds like a guy that wants to take things slow so move in with him. he probably wants to see how it will work out with u guys living to together
2007-03-18 12:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋