ie: not let anyone get close to them.
2007-03-18 12:28:26 · 19 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah too scared to let anyone to close to me.
I have only let one person in really close and they passed away. I have real problem letting even family get too near for fear of losing them.
:-)))
2007-03-18 13:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Teejay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of a screwed up life as a teenager which has evolved into adult years. My mistrust with people which the problem is mainly relationships with men due to control,cheating,rape ect in my past ..all things I think, give me good reason to be mistrustful. It is VERY hard for me to trust someone and once that trust has been abused I usually find myself without any further use for that person in my life...the door closes so to say. I have been fighting this with my husband now who I have been married to for less than 1.5 years because he has lied and cheated so this has not only ruined my relationship with him but my own confidence and I dont have any desire for friends,other men or anyone in my life at the moment,even to include my own dog it is that pathetic. It isnt a good situation to be in and I know it will eventually end up in a sad lonely life. The concept with shutting people out is that if you arent close to anyone then you dont get hurt..but you still hurt regardless from being alone. I do really test the water with people on deciding how close I get with them (if at all) The older I get, the worse it seems to be..I hope if this is how you or someone you know of feels that you will get some help early on.
2007-03-19 00:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. getting too close means you have to hang out and that's not what i want to do. I'm not a teenager anymore and I need real substance to my personal realationships. The people that know me best are the ones who I still talk to on the phone more than I see in person. And if I get a "life" then I'm doing stuff I shouldn't. Shutting people out hurts in the end but for now I'm handling it, and I don't care what people think.
2007-03-18 19:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be such an open person, I'd let anyone into my life.... But I had 'friends' who kept things from me, and talked about me behind my back, they have now shut me out of their life's, (which is fine by me, as I don't need 'friends' like that!)
It has made me more cautious, as a whole, because I don't know who to trust anymore!
I can trust my hubby, tell him anything, and I know it won't go any further! But when it comes to friends, these people have changed my views, and I am not so trusting anymore! (although I do have some really great friends, who know exactly what these ex friends of mine are like! We don't live in each others pockets, but I know they're there for me!)
2007-03-19 05:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I guess I tend to do that...If I have a door open and it doens't feel good...I will close it.Even my closest friends get only so close. It is a protective measure...When you have been phycologically burned as a child growing up...you tend to approach the world a little differently. But I am working on it...this year...2007...I am trying to embrace a more grateful heart....to see the glass half full verses half empty so to speak. :)
PS...It has been 6 years since I have gotten together with family at holidays...I am actually thinking about going this year....maybe.
2007-03-18 19:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... Not me...
If you never let anyone in you will never get close to anyone and you will never feel that great spacial bond that people can have... Friendship and relationship wise... and if you miss out on that.. you've never lived.. you're missing out on so much...
Yes you may get hurt once in a while (some more than others) You can make the wrong choice about people you do let into your life and then they leave and you could feel a void from it.. but you come out of it the other end much stronger and wiser because of it... Such is life chick... Its the things we have to go through to make us who we are.. it's many of life's lessons and traits we have to go through on our learning curve so to speak... If you don't go through these things you are simply skipping class and you won't learn from them... because, even though there is alot of hurt you can feel... you're also missing out on alot of love and the value too... and there is the lesson to be learned... You will never love someone unless you learn to love yourself first...
xx
2007-03-19 05:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by *BURNY* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only shut people out of my life when I feel down and depressed.
2007-03-18 19:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to do this. I tend to pick out most bad things and overanalyze things to find excuses to cut ties with girls when I start to like them a lot.
2007-03-18 19:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by ppodjames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do it regularly, especially when im feeling unsociable, or the same person keeps hounding me to hang out with them just cuz they fancy my mate (not mentioning any names...!) or if i generally dislike them, thats a good reason to shut someone out! or.... they are getting too clingy! i HATE clingy ppl!!!
2007-03-18 19:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by KELLY F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I love people in my life, the more the better. I'm a real social animal. :o)
2007-03-18 20:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋