Recently I've been thinking hard about breaking up with a girl, I know that when you think like this, it's time, but... circumstances. I feel smothered and stuff, she doesn't like me going out with friends instead of her, even with her she doesn't really want me talking to my friends. She gets angry at the drop of a hat, and she's breaks down at the slightest hint of me starting an argument or growing a spine. Under normal circumstances I'd be out of there in a flash, but in a month or two are our final exams, and I don't know how she'd take the break up and how distracting it would be for her at this time which is already hard enough. So, should I soldier on for 2 more months or end it now?
2007-03-18 12:20:17 · 16 answers · asked by Ali P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to do what is best for you. Whichever choice is going to make you feel happy. You cant just stay with her because of finals coming up. She will be ok. Good Luck
2007-03-18 12:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Namename 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you got TWO MONTHS before exams, it's not like they're next week. I say, re-attach your balls, and let her know you are a man. You don't even have to break up with her.
Here is what I do:
I act the way I want to act. Never arrogant or inappropriate. But I always see my friends, I speak at a normal voice even when she yells so that she has to calm down, and when she acts crazy - then I look at her like she's crazy. She will learn to calm the Hell down, or move on. You can tell her that you are not going to stop seeing your friends, and that some of them are female, and that if that's not acceptable she can leave. Tell you that you would never make such demands and her, and you won't tolerate them.
You have to stay FIRM and CONFIDENT - if you faulter it will be ten times harder to train her, because then she'll know that all she has to do is keep it up, keep harping on you, and you'll fold. If you don't think you can, dump her. There are other fish in the sea that are alot more worthy of your time.
2007-03-18 12:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until finals are over, then tell her. Because I had a friend who's bf broke up with her before her exam and then she was so depressed she couldnt study and ended up doing poorly on the exam. Emotions do effect how they study or do on exams. So yeah its best if you tell her after the exams. But if this problem is bothering you a lot, then break up with her now.
2007-03-18 12:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well in this situation there are a couple of things to consider, how long have you been with her? Is being in the relationship going to affect your final exams? etc. My personal opinion is get out now, there is nothing worst then being stuck with someone like that.
2007-03-18 12:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you talked to her about the issues that bother you? Because it may bother you but maybe she doesn't know. If she isn't the type to listen, because I am hot headed myself, just write her a note. My boyfriend writes me these long detailed emails everytime something bothers him because that way I'm forced to read it and understand where he is coming from before I open my mouth, and he lets me know when I'm ready to talk he will be waiting. That always worked for me. You should talk to her about it, if the relationship is important to you. Otherwise, don't string her along, it will only hurt her more in the end.
2007-03-18 12:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest i think that the stress of this relationship is affecting the exams anyway and things could get a whole lot worse,if it was me i would finish it before things get out of hand. She probably wont be shocked anyway. Good luck 2u.
2007-03-18 12:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself, can you really deal with this girl and her attitude for another two months. If you can, stay with her but if not, tell her what the problem is and let her go. You need to think about how this is affecting you as well. How will your grades stand up if you stay.
2007-03-18 12:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by btjuana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is controling and manipulating you to the max. There will NEVER be a good time! She will always have some reason , or some drama ( "I'm going to kiIl myself if you leave." has she used that one yet? she will!)
to keep you in her clutches.
Get out, say goodbye, walk away, DON'T LOOK BACK, no matter what she says!
2007-03-18 12:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up. This is HER fault for being the way she is. You don't need this non-sense in your life. If she is upset after you break-up with her then oh well maybe she should have considered her actions before she feels bad afterwards.
2007-03-18 17:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by MoMoChan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, end it now. You don't have to worry about her exams. Two months and she should be fine and by then she might have someone else. Don't let her make you fail YOUR exams. Stress takes toll, trust me.
2007-03-18 12:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by AlwaysAskingQuestions 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋