Do you think you're a good parent?

Question

I'm just wondering, trying to get a poll on what the avg. parent thinks of themselves.

In your mind, are you a good parent, and have you ever learned something about parenting, or are you just going off of what you think you should do?

I'm just wondering those questions cause I see a LOT of answers here that sound legit, but to a child are possibly the worst ways to be raised.

Answer 1

I don't think anyone tries to be a bad parent. I have no idea what I'm doing. I have a two and a half year old. I never had younger siblings or babysat infants leading up to that age. If I ever did, I didn't know about the caretaking and discapline part. I was good at playing with them. If they were girls, it was beauty parlor and dress up the whole time. I remember getting my daughter home from the hospitol and all I had to go off was the paperwork and brochures they gave me. I took everything so literal. I drove myself nuts. Now I'm probley too layed back. I'm a prude about who she's around, but I'm not very good at discapline because she makes me laugh when she's naughty. I try so hard to keep a straight face, but I can't. She's very charming and gets away with a lot just like her daddy. She's my best friend. As a mom, I don't know how to rate myself. She tells me she loves me like 5-10 times a day. When ever she goes into the kitchen she asks everyone if there's anything she can get for them. She reminds me to turn off all the lights when I leave the room, and she prays on her own now. Everytime I sit down to tie my shoe's she comes up and rubs my back. So, I guess, based on her progress and thoughtfulness, I'd say I'm doing alright. But, we can always do better. She's very loving, and I'm with her 95% of the time. I hope I can take some credit for that. But, if the truth be known, I have my days where I feel unworhty of her and I feel God steps in on those days. It's probley disfunctional that Dog The Bounty Hunter is her favorite show, but she knows not to repeat the sware words. She also loves Dr. 90210. She loves the before and after pictures and says rhinoplasty(nose Job). I've been asking people if that's bad because I'm really not sure, and they said no, and that maybe she'll be a law official or nurse or surgeon. I don't want her to do hair like me, but she is getting good with a round brush and loves to be my little assistant. She's always trying to work at her daddy's store when we go there and everyone thinks it's cute, but we're afraid someone will take it wrong and we'll get in trouble for child labor laws. She thinks she's in charge of the shceduale and inventory. She walks right up to the counter and says to people, "I'm not shy. I'm pretty and smart". I'm totally guilty of letting her have her way too much. I think she's a little on the bossy side because of that. She's a good hostess at first, but she ends up trying to call the shots with other children and adults. I just let people put her in her place because that's what will happen in the real world. I always thought that would bother me, but she's not real sensitive. She just straightens up. I don't have her all the way potty trained yet either. They say it's wrong to push it. I'm also still trying to get that darn binkey away too. She's speaking full sentences with that thing in her mouth and it seems strange. She sets it down more than she used to, but she screams for hours and is very stubborn if I try to take it away, and I feel mean. So, I need to buy the book Boundries, right? I also need some potty training advice, and I'm afraid she'll graduate from highschool with that binkey in her mouth. There's good and bad to every mom. But like it says in Purpose Driven Life- There's no such thing as an illegitimate child, only illigitimate parents, or something like that. I think all of us that are parents forget sometimes what a gift and privlage it is to be a parent. Whenenver she's really driving me nuts, I always think about the couples, and singles who can't have kids. I know there's a God because of her. She's my proof. I think that's why I'm not good at saying no. I'm lucky I have a kid to drive me nuts.

Answer 2

I am not a parent yet but everyone tells me and I believe I will make a good Mum as I love kids so much and relate to them well (perhaps I have never really grown up!) . I really do hope I will make a good parent!! However, I believe children do not come with an instruction manuel so I will have to wing it.
I am lucky enough to be the youngest in my family and among my friends and have observed what family and friends have done with parenting and will and sometimes will not use methods that they use. This is a valuable lesson being able to see this.

We have a really well behaved dog who is just the best dog in the world so I believe I am a good doggy Mummy. Bringing up a dog has been a good teaching experience too. No longer do I fly off the handle with my dog when she is naughty - I have learnt to be calm and patient and I think this will go a long way with bringing up a child.

Answer 3

it depends...my daughter is two and a half and knows her colors recognizes half the alphabet and can spell cat, dog, red, pink, and mom. So with that I think I am a damn good parent. But then when she starts to act like a spoiled brat I start to thing I am the worst parent in the world..I am a single parent as well so of course when she acts up i blame myself and feel that if she had to parents she would be okay...even though thats not always true. When it comes to her I dont take advice from anyone, i dont really believe in spanking but i do it when it is necessary (like when she calls me a big doe doe). I know that my daughter is spoiled which is a big problem..but my need to over compensate gets the best of me. I'm 23 and I still have so much to learn, but I think that so far I have done a pretty good job.

Answer 4

I believe that I' a good parent. My daughter is three and I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my second. There are times I feel as if I could have handled the situation differently and make a mental note of it just in case it happens again. I read alot of the Parenting Magazines and watch other parents and they way they handle certain situations.
Our children don't come with training manuals if they only did than all of us would be wonderful parents. You can only learn for your experience and make the best of things. I feel that my daughter will look back on her life and say that you she had wonderful childhood with caring and wonderful parents.

Answer 5

I think I'm the best mom I can be in my circumstances...well, meaning things could be different if my llife were different..Like the fact that I work so hard, and would love to be a stay at home mom...That is little too late since my oldest is going to be 18 very soon...In my eyes I was good,but sometimes when a child does something you don't like, as a mom,sometimes we ask ourselves,(Is it because of me that?) whatever it is,(the problem) were all not perfect, but All we can do is try for the best!!

Answer 6

I know I'm a good mom. So far my kid has survived 6 months! I do learn a lot about parenting as I go along. Sometimes questions just pop up. Especially for us first time moms. Sometimes I do go by what I think, but it has to benefit my child and I have to know that it won't harm her.

Answer 7

yes I believe I am a good parent. I am a single mother and it has been very hard at times but I've made it this far. My son has everything he needs and he gets lots of love from me. He is a happy child!

Answer 8

I think that good parents often question whether they are good parents.

Parenting is very hard, and sometimes all the options seem like bad ones.

My grandmother gave me the best advice and I follow it " Better the children cry, than you cry". What it means is that it is better for your children to cry when you say no, than you crying because you said yes and messed up.

Answer 9

no body knows how to parent until u have a child .... u can read all the books in the world and research it all u like but guarenteed when that baby comes along its gonna throw challanges at u left right an center ... parenting i think it about trial and error .. and no body really knows until they had there kid ... anyways thats just my opinion

Answer 10

single parent and am doing the best I can regardless of the circumstances of my life

but God has been great and provided all our needs

each day is a learning experience for both of us tho I must confess

hope that one day she will look back at our time together and realize that she was loved and the many things I have tried to instill in her life - love of God, love of family, love of country, faithfulness to God, family and friends and honesty, trustworthiness and that integrity and respect are earned