We have been going out for many months, and she never has the desire to be intimate with me. I am growing tired of "being friends" and am curious whether or not I should end it.
2007-03-18 12:15:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are suppose to be going on vacation in a few weeks. End it now, or give her the ultimatum and go on the trip?
2007-03-18 12:52:27 · update #1
Sex is a very important part of a relationship. It isn't much of a relationship without the intimacy. I am not trying to be rude here, but maybe this woman is using you for your money. Are you paying for all of your dates, or is she returning the favor? I had this same problem with an ex-boyfriend of mine. He didn't care for sex either. I broke it off with him after only dating him for a week. Why bend over backwards to be in a relationship and not get laid? Either find someone else or stay single and masturbate. Even if you don't have someone else to date right away, at least you can save yourself some money.
2007-03-18 12:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a terrible situation. Was she always this way, or is this something new? Unfortunately, I'm told that there are plenty of women out there that just do not want sex. So I guess what you need to decide is how important this woman is to you. If you are a very sexual person, it's not easy being with someone less sexual than you are....let alone someone that has the sex drive of a snail. It's hard to have an intimate connection without sex, so my suggestion is to tell her that while you would love to remain or keep on being friends with her....you're just looking for something different for your life and want someone that will be able to share it in every aspect, including sexually. I hope this helps and good luck!
2007-03-18 14:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by chica_liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date me. Just kidding!!!
If it's been several months, nothing's happened in the bedroom and you've made it a point that you want something to happen? then you better get moving.
I know it sounds like a selfish thing at first, but you're being honest here, and there is nothing wrong with you having fulfillment the way you want it. You have needs and that's acceptable. You might like this women very much, but as you said, if she's not opening up to you, then it's not fair to you to live sexually frustrated for how long? without any affection.
I dated someone for three years, and thought I was a wretched person for wanting to make love always, and feeling unfulfilled. Forget it, you're just not sexually compatible, and since you can't force her to be with you, just move on. I know it sounds mean, and if you have feelings for the person, it is very difficult, I know I've been there, and all i got out of it, is being sexually frustrated for three years. Never works, just move on and find your happy place.
2007-03-18 12:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like she is really trynna get to know you, how would you feel if you had a gurl that just wanted to be intimate and not wanna act like your girlfriend? She will get intimate with you when she is ready, obviously she is trynna do something first before going on that level or doing that. I think you should keep this relationship going and not be so worried about the intimate part, cuz it seems like thats the only thing about a relationship to you that really matters if your about to end the relationship over it. talk to her about how you feel and maybe she will tell you why she is holding back.
2007-03-18 12:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Thick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I'm in that same boat. i have been dating this guy for almost a year and i can count on one hand how many times we have been intimate. Don't get me wrong I love him and i care about him but i have a strong sexual desire and its killing me. I find myself day dream about have sex with my ex but I cant do it because I love him and I don't believe in cheating on my man. Sometimes I think about leaving him but i haven't and we have talked about his sex drive and I think may need some help. So what I'm saying is, if you love her and care about her. Try talking to her and y'all try to work something out. Give her a chance, I am.
2007-03-18 12:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a blowup doll,,,,the new 2007 models are priced real low............J/K !!
Actually, she may have reasons why she isn't intimate with you. You ever ask why? I was in the same shoes you're in a long time ago, but my ex g/f did everything to me but actually take her clothes off, I asked her and she said she was saving herself for marriage. I just couldn't stand being all worked up by her and didn't want to marry her, so I left that scene.
Giving you my 3 cents
JW
2007-03-18 12:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't make someone sensitive to your needs. If your not getting what you want then you already know the answer. She's not even showing signs of caring about your sexual needs. It's a obvious choice.
2007-03-18 12:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Funny, cuz i was exactly like that in my first relationship. she might not feel completely comfortable with her body and feel a bit embarrassed cuz she probably hasn't experienced much intimacy or love growing up. Ask her what she has against it and tell her she's beautiful and that you want to make her feel loved, its only natural.
2007-03-18 12:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the f*** out of the there that happened to me once it was nothing but a pain in the a** the entire time I kept thinking i could fix it and it never worked i guess i could say it was one of the worst decisions of my life
dont go on the trip
2007-03-18 12:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by whyus?? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely end it.
If the spark isn't there, it isn't there. Even if some day she forces herself for a while, it will soon be unsatisfactory and stressful for both of you.
2007-03-18 12:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋