how do you leave someone if you love them with all your heart?

Question

I was wondering if this is at all possible.
because im in a relationship and i just do not feel i have to put up with the way he's treating me.
I want to leave but i love him with all my heart he says he feels the same way and always will and we have a child together.
I know if i leave i will just want to go back to him but i dont want to be treated this way anymore.
i want to leave and never look back, i tried talking to him about the way hes been acting but it doesnt seem to be helping.
plz help

Answer 1

i know you have tried this, but sit him down and talk to him. tell him he is treating u like an @$$hole and you cant take it


good luck!

Answer 2

I can relate 100% because the same thing is happening right now.

If he truly loved you he would stop hurting you. Sit down, and talk to him about this one last time. Tell him that you don't want to be hurt anymore and that you will give him one last chance. And work with him on this. If he doesn't improve, leave him.

And it will be hard, I'm not saying it won't because I am at a point where I am about to leave the guy I love. And it's gonna be painful, and you will cry, but that all will fade and you will find someone new who will treat you right. You don't deserve to be treated bad.

When I asked for the same advice everyone told me to move on. It's not what I wanted to hear but it's the best thing to do.

Good luck :)

Answer 3

WOW! I was in the EXACT situation and guess what....I LEFT! I love him but I feel good about what I did and now I am living my life with no pressure. He was not that bad but very judgmental.

I understand it is tough when you have a child but you don't want him/her to see how you are being treated and do the same. It is time for you to do for you and take a stand.Take control of your life. Trust me, if you are not happy, you child can pick up on that.

If talking to him did not work and if you considered counseling but he won't go (most men don't, so sad), then you have no choice. It will hurt like hell, I know but you will do what is best for you and your child and that is what is important. Maybe with you gone, he MAY realize what he took for granted. If not, then it is time for you to find someone who will respect and love you. There is a dating life after children, just need to be very cautious. I have not done that much but have enjoyed time with friends.

BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!!!!

Answer 4

That is such a hard thing to do. I know from experience as i'm sure everyone else has as well. But trust me, when you are really at the end, you WILL walk away, but because you have a child together you will have to see him at some point. that doesn't mean anything has to happen. you sound like you need some time alone to think things through. Take some time for you. you know in your heart what is the right thing to do. Be strong, and dont ever let anyone take away your self respect.

Answer 5

It's very difficult to end a relationship when you have such strong feelings for them. But that's when your heart is controlling your actions and not your head. You know by now he will not change what he is is what you'll get. Even if he says he will change I very rarely have seen it last more then a week before they go back to treating you like he is. I am sorry that there is a child involved but you know you have to have a very sound environment for him or her. They will learn by yours and his actions and think it is okay for that behavior. You wouldn't want your child to be treated bad, why would you except it for yourself? I won't lie and say it will be easy , but you can do it for yourself and your child.

Answer 6

hi!it is possible with the grace of god and your faith in him it's possible.you just have to be strong.you have to consider all angle of your situation especially you have a child together.ask yourself is the environment your child is leaving in good for him or her?is this what i want for my child to see everyday of his life?children feel what your feeling.i know my son's father and i are good friends now but i went through hell and back.i've been a single mom since my son was 3 and i'm still going stronger.you have to believe in your self that life can be over come.and it will turn out for the better.if the same question keeps popping out of your head over and over again its time you do something about it.its for your own benefit and for your child.your sanity and your happiness is important and your childs happiness.you want him to grow up in a world full of love and respect.with values.and theres also the fact that your child still needs its fathers presence in life.i hope that you find your answers to your quest.i will pray for you.good luck.

Answer 7

My question to you is, what the heck good is he to you. A quickie once in a while? If I were you I would forget about the emotional roller coaster that your on. Get out of there as fast as you can. After you have had time to think and relax, you will see that you made the right decision...

Answer 8

Just walk. You will always have a bond through your child. If you are not happy you can not be in love. You may love him, but you are no "in love" with him.
You can not be unhappy in love.
This is hard to answer without any details.

Answer 9

If you are being physically and/ or emotionally abused, and/or neglected and/or your child then you should try to get to a shelter along with your child for abused women and then you away from him will give you time to get over him. watch Pay It Forward.

Answer 10

goto counseling, communication can fix things so can mutual respect and forgiveness.