He got caught with drugs and is being charged with trafficking. He has previous drug charges so I think he will be in for awhile this time. I dont know what to tell my son.
2007-03-18 12:02:44 · 22 answers · asked by mindybecher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We've been split up for almost 2 years now. My son is 6 years old.
2007-03-19 12:29:31 · update #1
the truth
2007-03-18 12:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I depends how old he is.....
If he is little baby-10 say Daddy did something wrong and had to be punished and he is going to be away for a while and than when he is older explain it more to him. Equate it to a time out or something he knows a lot about.
If he is 11-13 try and sugar coat it a little. Say something along the lines of Dad did some bad things and they had to stop it so he is away for a while and once again tell him details when he is older.
If he is 13 or older tell him the truth. Maybe not all the details but enough.
It also all depends on how mater he is you would have to figure that out
god bless =D
2007-03-18 12:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son the truth. Tell him that his father made the wrong choices and got into trouble with the law, so now he is paying for what he did wrong by spending time in jail.
The best thing for your son to hear is the truth. Don't lie to him just because you don't want his feelings to be hurt. He will already be hurt either way. Your son needs you and do what is right.
2007-03-18 12:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children often think everything is their fault. If your child is quite young, you might wait until he asks. If he is older, tell him in an age appropriate way that every choice we make has a consequence and so it's important to make good decisions and do the right thing. Let him know that his dad made a bad choice and is now dealing with the consequences. Let him know that you love him (your son) very much and you always will. Let him know that you can handle things.
2007-03-18 12:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth, use it as an example of how drugs can ruin anyones life, even the people you love. Dont make his dad out to sound like a bad guy, tell him that his dad has made bad choices and has fallin under the use of drugs and its very hard to get out of the habit. Let him know his dad will be ok and will be out of jail at some point, and when that time comes you can all try to help him get out of those bad habbits........hope that helped some.
2007-03-18 12:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of your son. If he's under 5 years old then I wouldn't say anything. But if he's over 5 then he should be told the truth.
When our nephew's father was in jail we told them that he was out of town. They accepted that. Young children don't need to be taught bad things too soon. They're going to learn about all the bad things soon enough. Protect them while you can.
2007-03-18 12:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that people make mistakes but that just because they make mistakes they are not bad people. Also let him know that just like you have "rules" around the house, the government has "rules" too and that when a person makes a pretty big mistake they have to go away for a while until the government forgives them. Let him know that his daddy didn't go away because of him and that he loves him and will be back as soon as he can but that it is not in his control. Let the child know that the father loves him and reassure him that "this too shall pass".
2007-03-18 12:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son that his dad made some poor decisions, and is being held in a facility where he will have time to think about things and prepare for the future.
If there is visitation, you might consider taking him to see his dad, so he can see that it is not impossible to change one's approach after being in a place like that and doing better.
2007-03-18 12:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kid the truth. If you don't it will haunt you until you do, and then your son will hate you for it. Just tell him enough to be age appropriate, like he's in jail for doing something wrong to details of the crime, depending on the kid.
2007-03-18 12:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on how old your son is can change the answer.If hes younger than just say he went away or a little while and should but dont be very descriptive tell him he went to jail because it could bite you in the *** later.And iof hes older.obviously you dont have to really TELL him where he went.just say he went to jail for a while.
2007-03-18 12:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old your son is. When your son is older, like in middle you can tell him the truth. Otherwise, he will tell everyone at school that his dad is in jail.
2007-03-18 12:10:24 · answer #11 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋