I'm friends with a guy who I have liked for quite a while. I've always got the impression he likes me too as he always tells me he thinks I'm sexy, however I'm not sure how he really feels.
Whenever I'm with him he makes me feel like I'm the most important person in the world, and when I was sick he kept IM me to make sure I was OK.
However, I can't help but wonder if this is just an act. Its not that he's given me any reason to believe that, but my friends have their doubts and just see him as perv who is jus trying to get with me like he would any other girl.
In the past he also tried to get with me on several occations, however he had a gf so I declined.
I really like him but I don't know whether he is genuinely interested in me or whether my friends are right. I'm scared to talk to him about it but so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated x
2007-03-18 11:58:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly, thank u so much 4 every1 that commented - it really helped! But I have to say I'm a little shocked at how ...honest everyone's been! I duno if I made him sound like a bit of a player but he doesn't seem to just be interested in the way I look - I don't know how he feels or what he wants from me but one thing I am certain of is that he does truly care about me as a friend by the little things he does - when I got stuck with my coursework he calmed me down and spent ages working through it with me (without making me cheat!), when I told me my parents got married he spent all night talking to me about it even though I'm pretty sure he didn't care.
But on the other hand, we never really talk at school except for when we are in the same lessons, because he told me "I like to spend time with my other friends which aren't your friends" or something.
Sometimes he can be so sweet but he can also be the most selfish person I know and this makes it really hard to know how he feels...
2007-03-18 12:30:00 · update #1
If he's done this to other girls before, then trust your friends. Their probably right. And if he can't compliment you other than just being sexy (whilst that is a nice compliment), but it means he just wants you for your body. He's trying to cozy up to you and use you.
2007-03-18 12:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel cuz im kinda in a similar position, i've also known this guy for a while and we both like each otha he told me that i had a great chance of being his gal, the only prob is we've never had the chance to finalize it and make us offficial. he told me that he'd tell me on a later date about were i stand and that sucks cuz it hurts waitng around , life is about taking chances and sometiimes we don't get what we want.so what u could do next time u see him jus try to bring it up as a casual conversation cuz sometimes saying "can we talk or i need to talk to you" is a red flag for most guys. If he really likes u .he should give u a sign or something,Jus talk to him let him know how u feel , i've been trying that , and he told me he really likes me so that was step 1 clearing how we both feel about each other ,the hardest part i'm facing is trying to see if we're going to end up dating. So jus be strong take baby steps and who knows u guys could end up together. If it doesn't work well im sure ur prince charming is out there jus waiting to sweep u of ya feet. hope this helps good luck and please keep in touch maybe u'll be able to figure out this b4 i get my response.and u could also throw a few pointers
2007-03-18 19:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bluey07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u honestly want to be with someone who tried to get with u, while he had a gf? Do u want to be his next gf and wait to find out he has cheated on u?
Girl, dont waste ur time on him. Hes a player and wanting whatever he can get when he can get it.
He has persued u relentlessly because u turned him down. As soon as he gets what he wants from u, he will move on to another one.
Dont be niave hun, he needs to remain a friend only and u need to focus ur attention elsewhere.
Good luck to u hun.
2007-03-18 19:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an insecure mess. Get some help with self confidence issues and keep looking for someone who enjoys you and isn't afraid to let you know.
2007-03-18 19:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by lindalousmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋