How do we know if someone likes us out of politeness or from their heart?

Answer 1

This is a good question!

It is important to test boundaries with people, so you know how to relate to them, too.

For example, if you were suddenly homeless, which one of your friends would take you in? Why not try asking around your various friends if your washer breaks down, and see who would let you use theirs for a few days? That kind of thing can tell you a LOT.

See who tries to help keep you from getting embarrassed if something goes wrong, or who offers to help you when you do something stupid (My 5 year old invited 75 kids to her birthday party, and 67 kids RSVP'd. My two good friends came and helped me out.)

People who set aside time from their own priorities for you, when there is no financial or other benefit coming to them, are in your corner. Everyone else is just an acquaintance.

Answer 2

Well, I really didn't care for my husband's best friend's wife when I first met her, but I politely went over to their house and suffered through the annoying visits. She just seemed to have no personality, and her house was always NASTY, and she made fun of everyone else and they were teaching their kids to swear a lot. I just tried to be myself around her even though we were very different people, and what I found is that she had some depth to her that I did not previously see. I also learned the reason her house was nasty was previous roommates who were pigs - not her. And we actually started having some interesting discussions and found loads of things in common. So it went from politeness to a friendship of the heart. I guess you just have to see if people will give you the chance and get to know you - then later you will be able to see.

Answer 3

That's what makes the human spirit so great, you can never tell these things. Here's one way to tell. Ask them to do something two times one soon after the other, like maybe a lunch date, followed by a movie or something the next day. If it is out of politeness they will likely come up with a lame excuse for the second one.

Answer 4

If someone cares about you from the heart, they'd want to spend time with you. They'd call you in and say "Hey come in tomorrow Ive got something for you" And when you get there its nothing he just wanted to see you. Whereas if it was out of politeness its exactly what that 1st guy said "They'd come up with some lame excuse for the nxt day.

Answer 5

This is the $64,000 dollar question. It's hard for me to trust anybody that does nice things, because I've been used and walked on thinking people were nice, when in reality they were using me. I can't go around saying everybody is like that when they're nice to me, but from my past dealings with "nice" people, I always try and watch how these people treat other people and then I make my own internal opinion about their intentions with me.

Answer 6

Well many physical things. Like body language, the way they look at you, etc. But you can tell by the way someone talks to you, the way someone want's to be with you, etc.

Answer 7

I think it's very easy , you can realize when you talk to a guy , notice his way of looking at you is it a romantic or lustrous , and when he is with you , is he trying to touch you in sexy way or not , also his talking is he sexy or romantic . and at last , your deep feeling , your heart will insure all the previous .

Answer 8

don't know, maybe if you know each other for a long time and they not using pliteness nomore they like you for ur heart, people just use politeness to show themself, not using their heart....uhhh
i dont know lol