I need advice about wut to do between my daddy and my bf? who do i choose? how can i make them both happy???

Question

Ok i kno ive asked alot involving my bf but im so hurt and confused right now and im so mad at both my dad and bf. for those who dont kno: im 17 and my bf is 20. i live wit jus me and my dad. my dad hates my bf because of fights we get into when my bf gets rough. and im not allowed to see him anymore....anyway i love my daddy and bf both alot. last night i went to my bfs house even though i wasnt allowed and talked wit my bf bout how im feeling and he basically said its him or my dad. im lik WHAT! so basically hes sayin i have to choose the love of my life or my daddy? then i come home this morning and my dad is waitin for me and starts questionin me and yellin and he was cryin and jus a whole big mess. im not used to this im used to bein daddys girl not fightin wit him. both of them wont listen and both of them dont seem to care bout wut i want...which is my bf and my dad jus gettin along. so wut do i do? i kno alot will say to stay wit my dad but u need to think of it from my view.

Answer 1

Listen to your daddy. If your boyfriend gets rough with you, you need to stop seeing him. That is physical abuse and it will get worse. You can do better than that. Also, you need to get an education. You can barely write or spell.

Answer 2

First of all, you dont say what state that you live in, but since you are under age, your father has parental authority over you until you reach age of majority. When the b/f "gets
rough?" Wake up and smell the abuse, child. Your father has been there for you all your life, and he will be there long after this "love of your life" is a dim memory..
There is a big wide wonderful world out there, and it has a lot to offer a young person such as yourself. But when you start thinking about severing parental relationship with your Dad, you are considering a choice with consequences that will change your life for the literal rest of your life. Thats not a choice to be making in the emotional state that you are in. It is said that true love will wait, and I believe that. If it won't, then you are probably talking about something more similar to an infatuation than anything else. I'm sure that this is not what you want to hear, but as a lawyer its my duty to give sound advice to a client. Otherwise I do you no service at all.

Answer 3

If your bf gets "rough" with you, then I would dump him anyway. Don't chose your bf over your dad though. Your dad is blood, your bf is just some guy that you think you know. You're only 17, it seems like you know alot, but you don't always know best, not even older people do. If your boyfriend really loved you, he would do anything in his power to get along with your dad and would NOT make you choose because that's putting you in a weird position. Think about it this way, your dad is always going to be there for you, are you completely sure about your boyfriend?

Answer 4

I see this WAY too many times in teenagers or "young women", if you will. They get so wrapped up in a boy that they don't listen to anyone else. They sneak out to seem him, maybe skip school and disobey their parents. And for what? A boy that you can make out with that holds your hand and tells you out of puppy love that "he loves you"- every high schooler says "I love you" at least twice in their life to a boy. If your Dad says he's bad for you- 99 times out of 100 dads say it for a REASON not becuase they're "daddy and he tells me no all the time". At this point in life, boyfriends are cool and fine to have until you start f*ing up at school or disobeying your parents- then you're being a foolish child instead of the young woman you should be. There are limits and it's just dumbfounding when these girls/teenagers find some insane reason to fully latch themselves onto their boyfriend like a leach. Of course the million dollar question is: Will you even listen and comprehend what I and these people are telling you?--- it's up to you, but my guess is you'll dust it off just and continue to leach on to your "BF"...

Answer 5

Your dad is only looking out for your best interest. he sees something in your bf that could potentially be very harmful for you. You are 17 and probably close to being an adult, however you are still living under your dads roof and have to go by his rules. If you feel that this guy is worth risking your relationship with you dad for then go ahead. But no one should try and make you choose between them and a parent. If you were married then i would say YES, your husband comes first. But you are not married. think this through, if your bf loves you then he would try to make things right and talk to your dad. Its your bf's job to make sure your dad feels his daughter is safe and that he has nothing to worry about. see if he will talk with your dad, if he won't then he is not worth your time.

Answer 6

Listen to your Daddy... He loves you unconditionally, will always be in your life and he wants the best for you.
Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. He has proven his immaturity by asking you to choose between them. If you are fighting constantly perhaps you should not be together. If he really loved you he would treat you with respect, and would not try to put a wedge between you and your Father.
Ditch him Darlin... You are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. You deserve the best, and this guy just into the right one for you. This boy does not have your best interests at heart, it is all about him.
Hope this helps.

Answer 7

You're only 17, you have your whole life ahead of you with plenty of different guys. Friends and boyfriends come and go, but family lasts forever. Plus if this guy is rough with you, he is definitely not someone you want around. It will only get worse if you stay in a relationship like that, where yelling and grabbing becomes slapping and punching, you know in your gut that this guy isn't worth loosing your dad over.

Answer 8

Your father will be in your life forever. Your boyfriend can be there tomorrow and gone next week.
You say you boyfriend gets rough when you two fight. That does not show as being a healthy relationship between you two. You may love him, but honestly it doesn't sound like he does. Someone who loves you will NEVER ask you to choose one over the other. They would want you to be happy even if it wasn't with them.
I can't say who you should pick, but in saying you father was upset and crying when you disobeyed him shows he cares.. that he is worried about you.
There are other fish in the sea and only one father who will never be replaced.

Answer 9

From your view, your life has been very short up untill now. In fact, your dad has been in it your WHOLE life and your bf hasn't.

A year or two from now, from your point of view, your bf could be gone, but your dad will still be a part of your life. In fact, your bf could be somebody else's bf by that time.

I'm not saying what you should do, because you have to figure that out, but keep in mind that all boyfriends are temporary, and dads are permanent.

Answer 10

Are you stupid or what? With a b/f that gets rough with you??? WHAT??? You like to be abused? This the way you want to live your life???? If I were your Dad I would kick your lover's *** and have him murdered and his body fed to the hogs. LISTEN TO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING!!! Asking for help when it's all wrong???? Your father LOVES you your b/f want's control of you. NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER get lost to that life or you might never cut loose. You Dad is just trying to protect you....don't be an asshole teen and ruin your life for some jerk and stick with your Dad till you are an adult ADULT is not 17 and make responsible decisions....

Answer 11

Never be with anyone who treats you rough, or who disrespects you or who doesn't treat you well. There are a LOT of fish in the sea - pick one who loves you, respects you and treats you like a queen.

Your dad has your best interests at heart. It sounds like your boyfriend is using you. From now on, ask your dad to meet your boyfriends and ask his opinion. It'll help you be on the same page and get along better. PLUS, it'll help the guy understand you have people looking out for you.

I am seeing it from your view. Growing up, anyone I dated that my dad didn't like turned out to be jerks. The ones I dated that my dad DID like turned out to be awesome.