Well, I began dating a new guy. Things went well for a while but then he wouldn't respond to my text messages. I tried calling and he told me that he was busy. I attempted calling again today but then he texted me telling me that I needed to find someone better than him. I always seem to get this line. I got attached to him too quickly and now I feel foolish and a torn. I tend to make this mistake too often. It took me months to get to the point where I don't break down about my ex 24/7. The aftermath always lasts longer than the relationship in my case. How do you stop yourself from getting too close too soon?
2007-03-18 11:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by confused soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-18 11:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by dawson190154 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a thing that many girls go through sadly. Sometimes it is a deep rooted problem stemming from a divorce and losing a male figure or maybe from never knowing your father etc. Or else you just have one those silly romantic hearts that allows you to foolishly fall in love with or get attached to anyone who shows you intrest or some sort of affection. This is not uncommon so there is nothing wrong with it. It is just something you have to work through. You need to determine the difference between a "crush" and "real love". This will save you alot of heartache. Good Luck.
2007-03-18 11:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list--a LONG list--of things you need to know about a guy and things you two must have done together before you let yourself get attached to him.
If you check your list every day (and even continually add things to it) you will learn to build a relationship in a strong way before you begin relying on it.
Good luck!
2007-03-18 11:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that girls have (I am a guy)
When girls get hurt too many times, they stop getting attached.
DO NOT DO THAT! Please! I beg of girls everywhere!
Do not stop getting attached.
Look at it from my perspective - I am the guy who comes after the girls have been hurt. Then when they do not get attached to me.. I notice, and it hurts!
It is very unfair to the next guy to not get attached.
To solve your problem, you must be more selective in the guys you date. And get attached to those guys, and your relationship will have an opportunity to flourish.
My current girlfriend is trying not to get attached to me, and it is very hard for me. I know she will be attached after I have been around for a while, but it is very hard in the meantime
2007-03-18 12:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by electrowizard2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl...we all have been there. i use to be that same way. but this is what you do...instead of thinkin about jus one guy. you should always have options. so that way u wont be to hung up on one person. believe me. for some guys they like the chase, they like it when they first meet a girl. but after that. the thrill is over....why? i dont know. i think thats some asshole type of ****. LOL. but really. talk to other guys, date...you know. and then when you do find that one guy that seems honest and true. they stick with him. goodluck. and i hope i helped
2007-03-18 11:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a matter of insecurity on your part. You're getting your self-esteem from a boyfriend's attention. Make sure you have your own identity and your own self worth that comes from who you are. I guarantee this will get you a boyfriend better than him.
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