I think Im in love with my boyfriend. I want to be with him all the time and he makes me happy. Problem is, I get really scared when I open up to people. I am really scared of getting too close and something happening between us. Its really stupid but am I just protecting myself. Ive never been hurt in the past so there is no reason for this I dont think. What is the solution?
2007-03-18 11:41:17 · 21 answers · asked by lozziebach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im also 20. I have had one previous good boyfriend. My parents are together. Ymmmmm.....I do love him I think. It's just scary! Becuase Ive never felt this before
2007-03-18 12:09:43 · update #1
its early days yet.
2007-03-18 11:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lick_it_hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing your age this is impossible to answer accurately. Maturation happens in stages or phases (ever hear the expression, "It'sjust a phase she's going thru") well that's where that comes from. Erik Erikson was the first psychoanalyst to use the stage theory by defining a persons psycho sociological maturity along a linear spectrum. By knowing what stage a person is in and how quickly they're moving thru it, a clinician can determine a persons level of maturity. I can look at a persons clothing, jewelry, hair style, manner of speech, and kinesics and know the level of their maturation as well as their level of trust, involvement, and satisfaction of a current relationship or their propensity to readily entertain one in the near future.
You've described your symptomology, now tell me a about school, your car, how many previous b/f's you've had and the time since the most recent, previous marriage and if parents are still alive and together and I can tell you about your emotional availability for this or other relationships. No specifically personal information tho, please.
2007-03-18 19:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by annoyed_with_the_other_answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find love, you'll know. You will have no doubt in your mind. You said you 'think' you love him. Be sure. As for your fear of opening up, you need to tell your boyfriend. Tell him you want to be with him all the time but you are scared of letting him in. You need to communicate with him and make sure that
1. he's not a selfish *** looking to get laid or
2. he loves you but he thinks you don't care about him due to your (possibly?) distant attitude. Two very important things to keep in mind:
1. If your relationship lacks communication, than love is not possible.
2. There is no rush. If you do love each other you will be able to wait until your fears are gone.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 20:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lavinia Morrison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a part of life. "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all." I forget who's quote that is but it's true. Think about why you love him. Is it because he makes you feel beautiful? Do you guys have the same interests? Or do you simply like the attention? Think about some of these things and if it seems rational there's no reason not to let yourself go. Falling in love is a part of life and it's what help keeps our species going.
2007-03-18 18:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is to open up, we dont find the true effects of love until we live it... It is an amazing feeling and you should be happy that you are in it.. the more open you are with him the more you will both love each other... good luck and there is nothing to be scared of.. I heard once, it is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all... and I think its true
2007-03-18 18:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How scared are you ? enough to test his loyalty to you or are you willing to have him build a strong emotional bond with you so that he thinks of you even when he is far away. Get to know his weakness and what make him strong and important in your life and build on it,the more he sacrifice emotionally towards the relationship will only draw the two of you closer and make you the envy of piers,you as the woman have to know what type of bait to reel this good guy in so that your guard is not compromised and you do not be taken for granted again ,be determined to let him know that you have standards and he has to work for you,in a nutshell,the more you make him work for you ,the more he will appreciate and cherish you ,good luck
2007-03-18 18:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a risk and be more open. You will never know what's real love like if you keep making barriars around yourself. I know if you do fall deeply in love for someone and they end up breaking your heart, it will hurt a lot, but that only helps you learn more about relationships. However, you do need to be cautious on anything suspicious of guys who might be cheaters. But just trust your instincts, they're usually right.
2007-03-18 18:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel I'm in love with mine and I'm not quite sure how to handle it.Its an amazing feeling dont get me wrong but its also a scary feeling at the sametime and its like "WOW... Where did this great feeling come from, we're not use to feeling like this yknw the whole in love thing and its kind of nerve wracking so we freak out alittle. Its natural I'm working on it, everytime I'm with him I just open up but at the sametime I'm like arrgghh lol but the funny thing is he makes me feel comfortable so I cant help but be open with him and love him.
So my solution would be to be yourself let love lead your way but your heart guide you
All the best and good luck
I hope that helped in some way for you :)
2007-03-18 18:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its really hard to be secure about love desitions, and whatever it takes I think u r being mature about ur love for him.
I know that true love may hurt sometimes but, how will u know if u don't give it a try.Theres nothing to loose, u Will learn more about ur life and how to handle it, that's why ur boyfriend is by ur side, he must understand u and give u a hand.I really wish u luck!!!!(Michelle)Bye bye.
2007-03-18 18:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Alexiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was scared of falling into love because i didnt want to get hurt in the end but i learned that you need to take chances in life and love or nothing will ever happen good or bad so take the chance theres nothing wrong with being in love!! Good Luck!
2007-03-18 18:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by jus_teazen08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think that you're unlovable in some way because of some perceived problem or issues that you have. there also may be a good reason to avoid your boyfriend because he's really not the best person for you. maybe you can talk to a therapist to get this straightened out? good luck!
2007-03-18 18:44:52 · answer #11 · answered by eyebtired 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋