My 3yo girl will not sleep in her bed?

Question

she just screams to sleep on the coach or my bed, i just cant get her to stop crying, i tell her its bed time and to sleep in her bed, as soon as i walk out the door she will not be far behind me, and she will not sleep with out her dummy, lamp and bottle of milk. what can i do, she keeps me up till 3am screaming

Answer 1

if u find any help here let me know. With my daughter all I do is continously get up and put her in the bed-which sucks cuz i have to get up at 4 am to go to work. But consistency is whats important. My daughter will be starting school soon and I just had a miscarriage so needless to say she has regressed big time when it comes to everything! within the last week I just got her back on track with the potty, but the bed is a no go-she likes to scream and say she has monsters under her bed. But I refuse to back down. And that's what you have to do, let her know u mean business and that she has to stay in her bed all night long. Hopefully this will help and good luck to you.

Answer 2

Don't give her a bottle or a light. Keep bringing her back and let her scream. She'll do this for a week or two, but you've waited awhile to put her in her own bed, so it'll take some time. My pediatrician recommended reversing the doorknob. You can lock her in and know she's safe. I personally have a problem with this, but you could always put up two baby gates on top of one another and see if that works. That way she has no way of getting out (unless she knocks or pulls them down. Put a loud fan or noise machine next to you while you sleep or go sleep on the couch or as far away from her room as you can until she finally goes to bed on her own. You've got to be tough or you'll have a 12 year old sleeping with you who has dependent behaviors and will need to seek therapy. You're doing her the favor by letting her cry now. Good luck!

Answer 3

I did not read the responses, so I hope I'm not repeating an answer already given. We had this problem with my son. I would put him to bed and sit in the hallway outside of his room, not looking at or talking to him. When he would get up from his bed, I would grab him, still not looking at him nor talking to him, and put him back into his bed. This would go on for hours. After a few weeks, he gave up and started to stay in bed. This is an exhausting process, but eventually worked. I wish there was an easy answer, but there's not. I understand your frustration. My son has been difficult in each stage he's gone through. You just have to keep at it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

My daughter is 2 and she has a bottle, as a game I tell her mummy is very sleepy and I might have a sleep and bottle in her bed, she races me up the hallway and pushes past me so she can get in the bed first and grabs the bottle. She loves being read stories and I sing her a nursery rhyme, maybe starting a bedtime ritual such as this with your daughter may help.

Answer 5

While all the others sounded great I have a different idea for you to try. Put her bed in your room and make her sleep in it. Once you have mastered that step then move the bed toward the door about a foot each night until it is in her room. I have heard it works. Good Luck!

Answer 6

she definitely should not be on a bottle anymore. the answers above are good, consistency is key. my brother made his kids a "sleep chart" when they were going through this. it looks just like a calender, and you or your daughter put a sticker on each day that she sleeps in her own bed. you can give her some sort of small reward at the end of each week, like a trip to the ice cream parlor or a cheap toy. this might make her eager to go to sleep in her bed so she can add up stickers and get a prize.

Answer 7

a bottle at 3 years old? well, this didn't happen overnight so it's not going to be cured fast either. you're going to have to put her in her room and lock it on the outside and put up with the screaming. it's hard but you have no other choice. she will be sleeping in your bed at 5 years old and i don't think you want that. let her have her night-light, toy or whatever but she cannot have you or your bed or the couch. forget about the bottle. once they have teeth that should be gone.

Answer 8

My son is now 2 1/2 and he slept w/ me from the time he was born and we got him a cute little race car bed that he picked out.After that i put him in it and made a pallet right beside it for about a week. And before i knew it he wanted to sleep in his race car bed from then on, it might not work for most people but it worked wonders for me....

Answer 9

that's the reason i'd warn any figure adverse to co-dozing previous 6 months. you will pay for it in the accurate. yet what you may do is positioned the girls in there own room. start up off by ability of staying in there until eventually they bypass to sleep. Then slowly start up leaving earlier and earlier. do no longer enable the girls back into your mattress as which will defeat each thing you attempt to do. this technique can take about 2 weeks.

Answer 10

Super Nanny (you should watch it) suggests that you have to keep doing what you do but when she follows to lead her straight back to bed. You tell her, "It's bed time and you need to sleep in your own bed." I suggest you add something like ,and "Mommy needs sleep too." On the second time, shorten the verbals. Third time, no verbals - just lead child to bed. Keep doing this disregarding her screaming until she cries herself to sleep. It works on Super Nanny and Nanny 911!