if you had an affair and regretted it would you tell your husband or let him think the baby is his
2007-03-18 11:29:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If your marriage is strong now and your husband doesn`t know about the affair then the baby is his.
Learn from this mistake and never cheat on him again, its not worth it.
2007-03-18 11:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
That is crulty to think the baby is his when there is a possibility that it might not be. Why were you cheating in the first place. That is the first issue that you need to bring up with your husband and resolve. Then you need to tell him that you got pregnant around the same time and you dont know the paternity. Ask him if there is any kind of way that you and him can work through this issue since you are being honest with him before it gets to be too late. How many months are you? Do the dates add up? What does the other man think? There is a lot of responsibility when it comes to raising a child and you are not only affecting your husband but that child will be affected as well. I hope that this does not happen but what if in the future you let him believe that the child is his and some kind of medical problem arises and you have to get a blood test then they tell him that he is not the father. You will be looking real stupid to both him and your child. I say be honest from the beginning. There is also the possibility that the child might not even look like him and he will just know that way from gut feelings.
2007-03-18 11:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Here we go:
1: You should NEVER cheat, or if you are going to cheat please have the common sense to use a condom. Don't bring nasty diseases home to your husband. He didn't ask you to cheat.
2: If you are an idiot, go ahead and tell him that you cheated and there is a 70% chance that the baby that he has probably fell in love with isn't his. See how well it goes. DO NOT TELL HIM!!! You will be ruining his life and his dreams because you made a dumbass mistake. I would just let it go. He probably won't ever question it as long as the baby comes out the same nationality as the two of you. Now if you are white and your husband is white and you cheated with a black man, I would tell your husband. Because you can't fake your way outta that.
Just to let you know, I asked my husband this question and asked him what he thought. This was his answer.
2007-03-18 11:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never do that to my husband, i would tell him the truth, cause think about when he finds out later, how much worst that is going to make your situation. Both your husband, and the father of the child needs to know about it. Or at least talk to your husband ,cause has the right too know the truth. How would you feel if you were in his shoes raising a child that isnt yours? You wouldnt like it.
As far as keeping it too yourself if you and him are going to stay together, what if something happens where they need to get blood for the child or something happens how do you think that would make him feel, he would hate you for sure cause you have lied to him, while he participated in this child's life feeling the joy of the pregnancy and birth, and only to find out it was all a lie. Where is the love in that ?
2007-03-18 11:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I am soo sorry you are going through this. I t seems like a pretty complicated situation.What worries me about his attitude is that he told you he doesn't want your picture in his wallet, yet he has this married woman's picture there. Not sleeping with you before marriage, can be explained by him learning from his mistakes. and HPV usually shows no symptoms in men. He probably never knew he was a porter. I would suggest counseling, but unless he is ready to listen there is no way he will change. It took 6 years and an almost divorce for my husband to realize that I was important enough to him to change. Again I am really sorry you have to go through all of this.
2016-03-16 22:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do it in the first place? Marriage is supposed to be forever, just with that person. Thats why you get married. If you loved the man you married then you wouldn't have run off with another man. If you did, and you don't know, you should probably tell him before he gets to know the baby as his. Poor guy.....no man or woman should ever have to go through being cheated on.
2007-03-18 11:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would be honest and up front and tell him the truth. Take the consequence because you chose to have the affair not him. Because the truth hurts but lies hurt worse. In the end you are making harder on yourself and your husband.
2007-03-18 11:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i would have an affair , first of all i will leave my husband and go with the guy whom the infant belongs to .
Why to ditch others if you can do such a stupid thing you need to leave your husband and not make his life more miserable.
2007-03-20 20:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell your husband. It will only be way worse later, and not just for you but for the child. The child has to be your #1 priority. If he loves you and will forgive you, then you only have to worry about paternity, and that is alot better than worrying about everything. Good luck
2007-03-18 11:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Lish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him..not that I ever would cheat on my husband but marriages are about trust, and the more you keep things from your spouse, the worse it will get.
2007-03-18 11:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋