he says he doesnt have a problem when hes by himself but when hes with me it takes the longest time for him to c** and he has to finish himself off. i feel like a complete failure. is it me or is it him?
2007-03-18 11:24:55 · 24 answers · asked by swimmergirl2009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's him. He gets shy I guess. Some guys are just like that.
2007-03-18 11:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it's not you I can tell you that right now. He is so used to doing it himself that that's the only way he can do it. ANd I feel for you too because I bet your hot and sexy and I woudl love to tap it. You can IM me anytime. But your bf is just to much into himself to really care about doing it with you. Maybe if you held up a naked picture of someone else he might finish.
2007-03-18 11:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any honest man will tell you that if a guy cant get off its his own fault, there is nothing wrong with a woman. First of all if his hand can get him off then a woman should shurly get him off..... I was told my one of my friends husbands "A guy can get off anywhere". Its definatly not you. So dont worry about that at all!
If he is having issues its in his own head, it maybe something is holding him back, or something hes scared of. Maybe try helping him 'Finish'. That way maybe he can relax more with you and that will solve the problem.
Good luck with this, and dont ever believe anyman that will tell you its your fault, because thats his way of pushing the blame off on you.
2007-03-18 11:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Speedybaby101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a combination of him being nervous and not being about to tell you what he wants and you not knowing exactly what he wants you to do because he wont clue you in. Usually the relationship isnt going to make it if things arent good in bed so I would figure things out or split.
2007-03-18 11:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must have some kinda complex, it must be a psychological prob. i think if you give him time and not make a big issue of it ,if you help finish him of with the attitude of everything normal he will c*m. it will get better, plus imagine if he could never get it up or he c*me in 20 seconds.......that would be a problem!!!
2007-03-18 11:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by mark p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might still be pretty young, sex becomes more comfortable as you get older and become more confident. he probably just is still nervous. maybe try using your hand or giving him oral before you really get going. worst case scenario, you may have compatibility issues, but to me, it sounds like him not you. good luck, don't take it too personally. you'll find the right guy and that thing will go off like a cannon, LOL! relax and have fun, stay safe.
2007-03-19 17:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by babalu2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably like driving a Yugo into the Lincoln tunnel up there (not a tight fit at all). Either he is too small or you are too loose. Maybe anal?
2007-03-18 11:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not you,its him. but why don't you finish him off? maybe the feelings of being a failure will go away after knowing "you" made him c*m.
2007-03-18 11:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's him because I know that he knows how to do it and what he has to do to finish; he just chooses not to. Don't take it personally--it's his problem, not yours!
2007-03-18 11:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally him. Maybe he suffers from initamacy problems. Get out while you can. What a jerk.
2007-03-18 11:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in love with his own hand.
Seriously, he does it with such intensity than anything else isn't satisfying. Get him to stop doing it by himself.
2007-03-18 11:27:38 · answer #11 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋