My girlfriend seems quite close to me. we have been going out for almost 6 months now. although we talk regularly, lately i feel i cant trust her. we go out a lot together but she still wants to go to discos with the rest of the girls and get drunk at weekends. i feel disowned by her and she cant seem to see that. should i trust her and let her go out or should i be suspicious of what she gets up to when she is out without me? What am i to think when i am sitting at home knowing she is out getting drunk with loads of singles guys that are flirting with her?
2007-03-18 11:21:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be hard to say if she is cheating on you or not, but I can say that her behavior is making you feel very nervous and insecure about your relationship, and in light of what you said, this is understandable. If she is insensitive to this fact, or, insistent that you can trust her, you have two choices: trust her , or, end the relationship. You shouldn't put yourself through the misery of sitting at home and wondering what she's up to. Why aren't the two of you going out together? And if you do spend time together, maybe she really does need some time apart to go out with her friends. Either you need to trust her, or let the relationship go. To stay in "limbo" will only cause you to feel miserable.
2007-03-18 11:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she doing that makes you not trust her? Flirting with other guys when she is with her friends isn't exactly cheating but it does suck that you have to go through that. Does she answer the phone when you call her at the club? If not I would definately say something is funny about the situation. I think you should spend more time with your guy friends and see how she reacts. If someone is cheating on you they will usually accuse you of doing it too. (I know this from experience) Just test it out and see if she starts calling you out as well.
2007-03-18 18:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, you may want to move-on. She obviously is not as committed to the relationship as you hoped she would be. If she makes you feel insecure, tell her and if she doesn't think she should do anything differently, then she is not worth the effort. If you always have insecure feelings with gals you date on the other hand, you may want to look into that. Good luck.
2007-03-18 18:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all you know she could be drunk and hooking up with someone, like she could have a bf she won't know about and he's always there at the club when she is there and making sure she drinks and then he's wit her, just go with her if your that worried
2007-03-18 18:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should give her some room. maybe sit down and talk to her about what you just mentioned. tell her you want her to have her space and time alone with friends but that you are worried because you know what kind of guys are out there. i think if you actually sit down and mention this to her she will respect you a lot more and your trust will be regained with her.
2007-03-18 18:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is not much you can do. you could ask her friends if she does things with random guys when she is drunk.... but they may lie to you. or they wont care... but you cant lock her up or anything.... she may not be doing anything. but you'll never know. but, if you dont want an alcoholic gf, break up with her. you cant chage anyone but yourself. the real question is, do you want to date this kind of person??
2007-03-18 18:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dancing with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should be able to trust her.
But if this really bothers you, you should sit down and
talk about this with her. After all you guys are going out
and should be able to talk about something that is bothering you.
2007-03-18 18:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her friends are single watch out! however her friends act she will too if they like to flirt and be with lots of guys. if they are not like that u have nothing to worry about
2007-03-18 18:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by angie o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should follow her where ever she goes! and help her to get over the habbit of getting drunk, and if she wants to get drunk, i say should only get drunk around you.
2007-03-18 18:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jen â?¥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask her how the party was and if you can go next time to see if the both of you can have fun.
2007-03-18 18:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋