My daughter came home with a tatoo and she is 11?

Question

She went with a friend of hers and the mother was drunk when she allowed our kids to receive a tatoo and she said she was the parent of both kids. What should be my next recourse of action? It's the size of an apple - and it's a Unicorn. First and foremost she is going to regreat it so BAD.

Answer 1

First it doesn't sound right that an 11 year old would sit through a session that results in an apple sized tattoo. But even an 11 year old with parental permission isn't allowed to be tattooed by law. You jointly sue the artist and the mother for laser removal. File charges with the local police department and Child Protective Services.

I hope your story isn't true, God I really hope so. But if it is, I wish you the best of luck in this. I hope they don't fight too hard.

Answer 2

What the person did is illegal. It's illegal to tattoo a minor in the US. Secondly, what are the health risks? Were clean needles used? Anyone sleazy enough to tattoo a kid probably isn't very hygienic either.

I would call the police and report the incident, then call your family doctor as soon as possible. Your child may need to be checked for HIV and Hepatitis C.

I wouldn't blame the kid too much. Clearly they made a decision which they should have asked you about. You need to do some talking about limits. OTOH, 11 is really a child. A child who was under the influence of an irresponsible adult.

Getting off with just a tattoo might be a good thing. An adult who would allow the child to be tattooed is hanging out with people who might do worse things to a kid, or encourage them to do worse things. I'm thinking sex and drugs here.

I'm not blaming you, but in the future you should take a closer look at who your child is with. It's hard to do, and hindsight is 20/20 but I'd really curtail where your child is allowed to go. If the kid protests, you've got a really strong example of why you want to know where they are and who they're with.

Answer 3

Personally I think its a toss up about who is responsible, the drunk mother of your daughters friend or the tattooist. He should have recognised that a, the mother was drunk and b, the child wasnt old enough, not even with the "mothers" permission to be honest! The mother though shouldnt have got drunk while being in charge of 2 minors.

I dont think there is anything much you can do, other than maybe investigate tattoo removal or coverup. Perhaps the Mother can pay for it, seeing as she has more than a share of responsibility?

The pain and so on that this will cause may well be enough to make your Daughter think twice about getting another one done!

Where about is the tattoo btw?

Answer 4

Speak to an attorney and find out what your rights are. You could make the mother & tattoo parlor pay for having it removed by laser. Then some friendly advice....screen your child's friends and parents better. If the mother was drunk, count your blessings that your daughter came home alive. You can get rid of the tattoo!!!

Answer 5

The best thing to do is to get a lawyer and take some action not only againtst the mother but the tatto parlor who did the work of art. Yes she most likely will regret it later. But for now the mother needs to learn a lesson (a hard one)for not only drinking while in charge of your child and hers, but driving them somewhere and then falsifying that she was your daughter's parent . she is just waiting for a judge to throw a book at her

Answer 6

Sweet! Did you know the mother was a drunk? I'm sure your daughter will regret it in time. I hate to say it, but I would probably sue her & the shop that did the work. They both are at fault. Use the money for tattoo removal. Where is the tattoo?

Answer 7

There isn`t a lot you can do about the tattoo, they are permanent unless you pay to have it lasered. I would visit the shop and tell them what they have done. Its unbelievable they would do a tattoo on an eleven year old even with parental permission.
I would also phone Trading Standards to see if any laws have been broken.
Doesn`t seem much point in approaching the other mother as she seems to be a waste of space.

Answer 8

First of all, no reputable tattoo artist would (Even with a parent's permission) give a tattoo to someone under the age of 18. In most states it is a law. Second I would sue the other parent. Why was she allowed to drive your daughter somewhere when she was drunk?

Answer 9

I don't know the laws where you are, but I got one at 17 years old and my mother had to have a notarized statement allowing it and had to be present for the entire thing. I would check into the laws there and file a report on the artist that did it if he/she was in violation.

As for the other mother, get an attorney!

Answer 10

What is it with you Americans and suing people. Because money will make the problem all better!

Why don't you speak to the mother of the other child and ask her why she was drunk when she was in charge of your child and meant to be the responsible one. A few home truths might sort her out.

Next you should talk to your child and ask her whether she was made to get one or whether she decided on it herself. You need to tell her that while she might think it looks good it was a bad idea in the long run because as she grows up her skin will grow with her over developing bones, so instead of a unicorn she may have a patchy one.

Following that you may want to take her to a laser surgery or a plastic surgeon who could suggest a way to remove it, and you might want to consider making sure your child isn't left with the mother again.