I've been dating this guy for almost a year.we've had our rough times once we broke up for a while because i ended up hanging out to much with this other guy.But we got back together because we found ourselves missing each other.we were fine for a while after we got back together then he asked me to marry him I said yes because i don't know what i would do without him then after a week he started getting really mean he doesn't trust me at all he thinks that i'm going to cheat on him he never believes me when i tell him how much i love him and he's claims i show him no affection.Now he basicly tells me that i can't have any guy friends because he can't trust me with guys and he can't trust the guys.He also cuts his wrist he told me once it was my fault then he tried to tell me a week later he never said it was my fault.Then after we get in an argument and i start to bawl he tells me he's sorry and didn't mean it I don't know what to do. Is this just a phase?will it go on forever??
2007-03-18 10:51:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This will get worse as time goes on,and probably very violent. ditch this idiot.God and trust are the foundation of a solid relationship.once that is gone, its all over. you are in my prayers sweetheart,god bless you.
2007-03-18 11:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiff you sound young and if this guy needs to heal because of past experiences then its time to let go before he gets an excuse to hurt himself more. Get out now before you get married or at the least ask for more time to know each other. Less than a year is a very little time to REALLY know someone.
2007-03-18 18:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is psycho, and is a dangerous one to be with. He has self esteem issues and is a control freak. He won't change anytime soon, so keep dating him, yea, even marry him if you are into a self-destructive manipulative cry baby. If you ever want to be genuinely happy, then run from this guy, don't walk. You'll get over the heart break, I promise. Call a family member and tell them what you said here, and I am sure they'll agree with my advice. Good luck.
2007-03-18 18:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RRRRRUUUUUUUNNNNNNN!!!!! The hardest thing you will ever do is leave someone you truly love, but you can't help him. Things will never get better only worse. I can give you example after example from my own life, abuse, tape recorders, guns... it never gets better!!! And it's not your fault. I'm sure you're doing everything humanly possible to let him know you really love him... stop!!!! As much as you hope and pray and wish and think it will change, it will not, it will only get worse. Please trust me on this one, there is something wrong here, if he can harm himself over something that is 'nothing', what is he capable of doing to you in the future. Don't do this to yourself, I have and it never plays out well. You're in my prayers... best of luck....
2007-03-18 18:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by ladilasvegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you glad you found what the true in him before tying the knot? It would be even worse after you two get married, think about it. Is that what you really want? Being married is not easy to get out, you are in it for better and for worse. I would say end the relationships now before it gets worse.
2007-03-18 17:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible and end all contact with him. This type of jealous, controlling behavior does not get better, it gets worse...maybe even to the point of physical abuse. How can you say he's a great guy if he doesn't treat you so great?
2007-03-18 17:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got engaged, well girl your boyfriend doesn't trust you now, means he will never trust you, you better give him his ring back! Sure it will hurt, but you will get over it. This is one you don't want to be with the rest of your life!
2007-03-18 17:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiffany you both sound very young an immature he is self destructive best 2 get far away from him before he takes it out on you.Just my thought.
2007-03-18 17:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is starting to get mean later he will be meaner
tell him to grow up and quit cutting his wrists for attention or take him to the mental hospital if he doesn't stop
he is responsible for his own actions
if your going to be with him you really don't need close guy friends you hang with alone, if so, then be friends with them and forget the guy your with
2007-03-18 17:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disengage ASAP
2007-03-18 19:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋