Should I stop speaking to my ex?

Question

I am not sure if I should stop speaking to my ex-gf. She broke up with me a mth ago. We have spoken a bit recently. She gives off mixed signals.

We met up and she was really nice and very flirty with me. When I spoke to her a few days later she was off with me. She has now said it would be good to speak on the phone in a day or so but she has ignored my text in response suggesting we catch up for a drink.

I don't know what she wants and it is starting to get me down. I would like to try again with her. Should I just say it??

I don't want to be harsh and stop speaking to her but it may help me move on.

I am thinking I might write to her and tell her my feelings and suggest we try again but take things slowly?

Answer 1

she's confused. she doesn't even know herself if she really wants to move on or if she's regretting it. it looks like she's on an emotional rollercoaster, and she's draggin you along as well. you should just let things happen and see what the outcome is. definently take things slowly and it just may work out :]

Answer 2

Just stop talking to her. I went through this when I broke up with my ex a month and a half ago. I dumped him because I knew I could no longer be happy with him (he was a liar) but I was still in love with him and very much attracted to him. I had a hard time letting go of the love and the anger. I think it is best to stop all contact for several months at least. You need to move on and be happy. If you get back together it probably won't work out. On top of all the problems you had before now you will have the insecurity of being dumped by her. And she may not want to fully be with you. Don't drag out the pain. Just let her go.

Answer 3

If you really want to try this again, you have to take it slowly. I've just found nothing but pain and upset when I talked to the ex. I had to let go, because things just didn't work in the past and I knew it wouldn't work now. I was devastated for weeks, but over time and no communcation with him, the pain has diminished. Be careful, if you want to give it a try, then go for it. But, be cautious and take it very slowly. You don't want to move too fast and get hurt again.

Good luck! I hope things work out the way that is best for you.

Answer 4

Ex partners are called "EX" for a reason. If she broke up with you,she obviously had issues as to why but if she is giving the off and on..off and on with you then how can you be happy like that? She is going to keep toying with your mind and tugging at your heart strings which will keep you from moving on in life. Let it go for awhile,dont chase her up anymore just to be blown off from the sounds of it and see what happens...you might find something better out there.

Answer 5

You suggested all of it: An ex is in simple terms that... An ex. sounds like her pastimes are mendacity elsewhere today or perhaps as its convienient for her, she will be in a position to get again to you for that drink and that chat on the phone. till then, enable her contact YOU! flow on for God's sake and he or she will be in a position to get the message you at the instantaneous are not watiting round for her. she will be in a position to then ask your self what you're as a lot as and probable start up to pursue you and probably even get a touch jealous. do not write her and tell her the way you experience. communicate on the phone in an afternoon or so? the lady is BUSY elsewhere...

Answer 6

It's nice to stay friends with your Ex but dont get your hopes up and dont let her lead you up the garden path either.
Dont conatct her for a couple of days and see if she contacts you instead, if she does then suggest meeting up again, if she declines the offer then let sleeping dog's lie and move on.
Dont let the grass grow under your feet, if she is interested in you she will get in contact, just dont allow her to treat you as second best, you know when she has nobody else to chat with she'll contact you!

Answer 7

I think you should just avoid her and give her a chance to miss you and let her get a hold of you. I know it kind of leaves you hanging but at least you will be able to find out if she still has feelings for you and might want to give it another try. I am going through a similar situation. She might just have commitment issues.

Answer 8

It sounds to me as if she's playing with your emotions, i think you should both tell each other how you feel, you both need to know where you stand, but if you get on well as friends, then it's a shame to ruin that, then again, if that's the only waqy you can move on, then i guess that's all you can do. It all comes down to how much you love her, ask yourself can you just be her friend? If you don't love her, then friendship will be easy for you.

Answer 9

Yes, you should stop having contact with her.
I understand how you feel right now, your old good memories with her still lingers and you may want to make up with her.
But, ex is ex!
Who knows she is still interested in you? Whatever the reason for your having broken up with her, let her go.
Try not to be sissy. If ever your relationship with her resume, it is not you who take the first action, but her.
If she really wants to make up with you again, she will take more concrete and tangible action.

Answer 10

Can't you move on and keep a friendly relationship with your "ex"? Behaving one way at one time and another way at another time is considered "jerking someone around".
You are in control of your life.
Be cordial, but, make new plans in your life. If she sees that you are in control of your life, she may find that attractive - then decide if you still want her or have found something better. (than someone jerking u around)

Good luck