ive been talking to this guy for like a year and i rele like him. but he wants to meet him but what if he isnt the guy that says he is. what should i do
2007-03-18 10:41:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay if u go take a friend but get what hes wearing and meet him like at the mall or something somewhere public so u can spot him first and if he is creepy looking run and ignore him just dont tell him what you will be wearing okay BE VERY VERY CAREFUL take a guy friend
2007-03-18 10:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see if he has a webcam. Ask if you can see him on it. That way you can find out if he really is the age he says and so on and so forth. Because people can fake pictures and profiles, but they can't fake being on webcam and reacting to what you are saying real time. However, because you are 14 meeting someone that you met over the internet is a little bit dangerous. Not because you aren't smart enough to handle it, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders, but just because you are a young girl that could easily be overpowered physically and because there are some pervs out there that would want to take advantage of you. I would caution you not to meet him. But if you really feel you must. Bring at least one friend with you, if not more, and make sure a couple people know where you are going to be. And then meet somewhere very public and in your city, not his, so that you can get home if you need to quickly. Make sure your cell phone is on and fully charged and that it is easily accessible. But be careful, if this guy isn't someonet hat you really feel the need to meet, then dont. There is a lot of risk involved. And if you really do want to meet him, then, maybe you should consider telling your parents about him and asking them to come with you? By asking them and telling them about it (even though its embarassing and you think they may not understand) that shows a lot of maturity on your part. Be very careful. You are right that walking into a mall and seeing strangers is about the same as meeting a guy on the internet, but, first of all, you see them in real life and can be sure they are the age they say and secondly, you wouldn't go anywhere private by yourself with a stranger would you?
2016-03-29 05:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious to know how old you are, because I may have a different answer based on your age.
I would suggest that if you feel that you really want to meet him, that you do it in a very public place like the mall, and also take along a few of your friends and keep them with you at all times.(There is safety in numbers)
If he only wants to meet you one on one I would see that as a major red flag. If he really cares about you he would understand that your self preservation is important.
If he doesn't accept that you want to bring some friends with you so you feel safe, then he is not the person you thought him to be, and you deserve much better than that.
I hope this helps.
Take care and stay safe,
Sharon
2007-03-18 10:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by schmoo_withazing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you? I have heard about a lot of s going to meet these guys that they met online and they end up getting d. Not saying that may happen to you but... have him come where you live. If he's not the guy he says he is then move on. There are more fish in the ocean.
2007-03-18 10:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by prettyting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warning, how old are you? This guy could be sex offender and a rapist.
My advise is not meet any one you met on-line but if you are going to do it anyway ask him to meet your family at your house. And make sure you know where he really lives, and with whom; don't go alone to his house, take your parents to meet his parents. Aso check at his local police office if he has criminal record of if he is a registered sex offender.
If he refuses to give you his personal infomation, then he is trying to hide something.
But again DO NOT MEET ANY ON-LINE FRIENDS, many boys and girls have been raped by on-line predators.
2007-03-18 10:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he is age appropriate and not a sexual predator.
You have the right to get positive proof. Tell him you insist on either your parents being present when you two meet.If he gives you any resistance about this, i would'nt meet him.
2007-03-18 10:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read and saw on tv always bring your parents with you, or bring a friend. Go to a public place so there's lots of people. That way you're safer around the people and its better having a friend or parent with you to help you.
2007-03-18 10:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by reptar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it unless your SURE he's the guy he says he is, like youve seen him on webcam and you REALLY know him by now, trust me you have to be extremely cautious for your own sake and think about it thoroughly k sweetie, hope everything goes good and you make the right decision ;)
2007-03-18 10:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by jennifo! the nympho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you do meet him.. go with alot of friends and maybe a cop or two lol
2007-03-18 10:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont trust online relationships. I would just say i really dont know if im ready to meet you and can we just keep a "friendly" relationship online. It would be dangerous and who knows who it could really be. Please take this advice!
2007-03-18 10:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋