I am neither a misogynist, nor a homophobe and I still enjoy looking at attractive people. Additionally, I have not suffered a recent relationship breakdown and my sexuality is confirmed in my mind as heterosexual. Infact I have not been in a relationship for nearly 2 years. However I no longer have any desire to seek a new relationship. What do you think are the reasons for this? And it's not apathy or laziness smart guys. Cheers.
2007-03-18 10:35:56 · 28 answers · asked by barry bowfinger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously dont love yourself....until you do then you will want someone.
2007-03-22 09:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible you're just at a stage in life where you enjoy living your own life. A lot of people come to that point.... there is nothing wrong with you feeling satisfied out of a relationship.
Personally, I think it's a good thing. It shows maturity, and it shows you do not need someone else to make your life worthwhile. My only suggestion is that you make sure the women you do get involved with are well aware of your no relationship policy. You never know, someone may spring up on you and change your mind down the road. If not, as long as you're happy with it, it's all that matters.
2007-03-18 17:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by afwife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I find it interesting that you referred to your sexual orientation a few times. This is obviously something you're thinking about otherwise you would have simply questioned why you're not seeking a relationship. Do you have other interests that are taking much of your time at the moment? I myself am not looking for a relationship at the moment either. I have just moved to a new city, am in the process of buying a home, planning on getting back in school to earn a graduate degree, and developing some semblance of a career. I would not run away from a relationship, but am not actively pursuing one. Relax and enjoy your life and should you meet a great woman enjoy her.
2007-03-18 17:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may just be burnt out. I am a heterosexual woman and I have gone through phases like this before. Relationships are hard work and sometimes I am just too tired to deal with it. I am the same age as you and I know that at this stage in our lives a relationship may be unecessary, especially if you are attractive and have no trouble meeting new people. I think as you enter your mid thirties you may start to want a relationship. I wouldn't worry about it. You will probably end up married with children someday so enjoy your youth and freedom while you have it.
2007-03-18 17:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, how are you, well cheers! I feel that way to and I think the reason being is that when you are in a relationship with a person they tend to hurt you and when you finally get out of that it's like wow freedom my god no going out and buying headache pills every week. But seriously I have been in the same boat and I feel okay, I mean alot better than being in a relationship because after being with someone that has hurt you, you just think that, they're all like that right so what the hell, why put yourself in that situation again.
I've had two long term relationships and when I was involed it just seemed that I never got around to myself and I wasn't happy, I mean sometimes I was but I find that since I haven't been with a guy in quite sometime that I am free to be me, I can do what I want and I don't have to answer to anyone. I mean that shouldn't be how you feel in a relationship but sometimes that's the way it goes.
But not all men and woman are controlling and freaks their are very great people that are just meant for eachother but that is very hard to come by right so when you feel that you are ready to step out and take a lady out one day well coolio but don't feel that you are not normal or something, you just need to have sometime in your life to get back to you.
One day there will be that one girl that comes into your life when you least expect it and trust me right now you are doing yourself a favor with just chilling and stepping back for awhile. People need to understand that you don't need to have someone in your life to have a life and I think that's where all these people's relationship problems come from nowadays because alot of people feel that they just have to have someone and they don't realize that we only deserve the best so many people sell theirselves sort from happiness and love.
I know I did and that will never happen again.
Kay take care.
2007-03-18 19:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationships are very physically and emotionally demanding. It could be that you are focusing your full attention on other areas of your life and will be ready to take on a new relationship "project" when things slow down for you. In todays society we work too much, socialize too much, and in general do too much. A serious relationship is hard to build and nurture when you are running a full schedule. Let alone having kids and raising a family when both partners have to work full time just to make a decent living.
2007-03-18 17:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥SummerRain♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the effort involved in a relationship puts you off. Perhaps you feel that you don't have the energy or commitment for a relationship because it requires a lot of giving and compromises on both sides; So therefore you may think it could be too stressful for you?
2007-03-18 17:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you just need to play the field for a while and not be tied down to someone. When you get in a relationship do you rush through those early days when you get butterflies whenever you think about the person? If so, you dont need to rush things with whichever girl you find attractive.
You dont need to be in a relationship to be happy and you dont need to expain yourself to anyone either!
Good luck xx
2007-03-18 18:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People go through phases in there lives, I found that a period of time just doing whay I wanted to do rather than having to consider what others wanted to do gave me a chance to find out more about myself
You may find after a while you find the right person that gives you that extra meaning to life, the person that really means a lot to you ... your soul mate. you are young just enjoy life
and your destiney will just happen.
2007-03-18 17:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by pjptigers01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
back in the day, by now you'd have a wife and several kids. in our current century, however, your 20s is time for a quarter-life crisis.
it's the time to rethink life, assess where you've been and where you're going. a partner may not fit into your future--who you want to be, where you want to go.
that's ok!
there's been an increase in people who choose not to marry and have children. perhaps it's the world's way of keeping the population in check. ?
i would recommend regularly hanging out with people. yoga, church, co-ed sports, book club, art class, etc. it's important for us to stay connected with people. your lack of a partner won't seem like a big deal if you're getting adequate social interaction from a group of people!
2007-03-18 17:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by gertieok 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your subconscious has probably registered how much a girlfriend will cost you when SHE eventually and inevitably dumps YOU. {Almost all divorces are instigated by the missus}. She'll be entitled to half your house, part of your pension and lots more besides. It's enough to put any man off women.
2007-03-18 18:03:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋