My husband wants to name our second son the same as our first,already named same as father. Help!!!?

Question

I am currently pregnant with second son. Our first son was named Daniel after his father but with a different middle name. Now father wants to name this child Danny Jr. after himself also. Husband is already a junior, and I can't seem to explain to him that this would be extremely confusing to everyone. We already call the first son Danny. Also, have problems explaining that child named after junior becomes the third after the name. I feel this is an extremely selfish thing to do and the first child will feel replaced if second one has same name, also how will any one tell the difference between father, son, and son legally and socially. Need some advice on how to change his mind.

Answer 1

Maybe you could convince him to name the child after a favorite uncle or respected person in his life. By making the name be someone he looks(ed) up to in his life he may then change his mind.
He may be thinking that the second son will feel left out if he doesnt have his Dads name like the first one does but you cant have two juniors. or perhaps you could convince him to make Daniel this new childs middle name and your fathers name for the first. Sounds like he understands how important a name is - studies have shown that names do affect how people think about you before they even meet you.

Answer 2

this is more common than many think (this is common amongst those of mexican decent however). usually the first name is the same, however, the middle name is different.
the simple thing to do to create less confusion is call them by their middle names! just make sure their initials are not the same-
another thing to do is switch the first and second name-
if it is daniel eric
the second son would be eric daniel
you can still add jr. to the name.

truth is, you can name your child anything you want-they dont even have to have the same name as the fathers last name!
you could even go
daniel eric (and your last name)

Answer 3

I'm not even sure it's allowed to name two kids the same name in some countries!

Seriously, why don't you ask if you could give your kid his middle name instead if it matters that much to him?

I LOVE the name Daniel, but won't name my kid that because it would be confusing for people to not know which is the father and which is the son (I'm also with a Daniel)

Answer 4

i believe that a child can't become his own personality if they carry on dad's or grandpa's or whoevers name. They need to discover things themselves instead of hearing, "why can't you do it like _____, you have the same name." Encourage your hubby to come up with variations of Daniel or use the middle name or an old family name as the 2nd son's name. I have a friend whose last name is Mason, his nephew's 1st name is Mason. My family name from Ireland is Taylor so my 2nd son carries that as his middle name. There's always room for compromise if you love each other and the baby.

Answer 5

I think you husband has quite the ego. If he wanted to have a son named after him he should of named the first one with his first and middle name. It is ridiculous to have two boys with the same first name (think George Foreman). It wouldn't only be confusing the boys would probably be made fun of by their peers when they started school. I say he named the first now it is you turn to name the second.

Answer 6

I have no experience with this, considering I'm only 15, but here's my two cents:

Try to remind your husband that your kids are all different people, and they should be recognized as different people - most easily as having a different name! Plus, you should ask him why he wants his sons to be named after him. His kids will have their own legacy attached to their own name, so it doesn't matter if they have the same name or not - he's not going to get any merits out of giving them his name, is he? Isn't the surname enough for the sons to carry on?

Hope that helps... =)

Answer 7

Good Lord. I totally agree with you. It would be terribly confusing to everyone. Perhaps you can appease him putting Daniel in the new son's middle name. Like, Travis Daniel _____. Or whatever first name you two decide on.
Just explain the practical effects to him, hopefully he'll come around.

Answer 8

I absolutely agree with every point you have made! It would be incredibly "confusing" for everyone. I think you need to make the point that you are 1/2 the parentage, your husband named your first child and to be fair, you should get to name the second!

Answer 9

First off where the hell does he get off thinking he gets to do this after you are the one that goes through all the pain! Dont let him do this, fight for what you want! Hes on some ego trip, and it must stop at this child! A name is special, everyone should have their own. I wouldnt do this to a cat or dog!!!

Answer 10

I'm on your side, thats ridiculous, you can't have 2 children with the same name! What about using your husbands middle name if he really feels strongly about it? I agree it would be very confusing for both your children and everyone else. Hope you can sort something out. Good luck!!!