My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I don't feel like we're a typical couple. We want a lot of the same things in life and we have identical values. We are also individuals who have our own lives. We live together and we get along famously. Most of our close friends say they could definately see us getting married, and so do we, we've talked about it, even talked of having children together. How long should we have to wait? There is no doubt that it's eventually going to happen, but it seems like the only reason we're waiting is so that others approve. Why is there a certain time limit to getting married?
2007-03-18 10:20:21 · 21 answers · asked by Shawnee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it depends on the situation. My husband and I got married on the 1 year anniversary of the first time we talked online. We were engaged 4 months after we first talked online, 3 months after our first real date. We've now been married a year and a half and are very happy. However, that doesn't work for everyone.
If you're just waiting on someone else's approval, don't, because you can't make everyone happy anyway. The decision of what you're going to do is a very personal one, that even the wise people on Yahoo Answers don't know!
I definately recommend being married before you have kids, though!
2007-03-18 13:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It's probably bets to wait. You are still in the first flush of romance. I have heard of people meeting and marrying in a very short time and it being happily ever after but more often than not it won't be.
I don't see why you or your friends should be talking about marriage in the first 6 months anyway - that normally scares off a guy!
There is no certain time limit to getting marriage but I'd just say wait, relax and enjoy each others company. No sense in rushing.
2007-03-18 17:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is good and bad about rushing into things. My boyfriend and I moved into together 3 days after our 1st date. It was wild and romantic at first , but nothing can kill those feelings like reality.
That was five years ago and I love him very much but there is SO SO much you need to learn about someone before you make such a big commitment. It's been a roller coaster ride to say the least and I think the pressure of marriage would have probably split us up.
Give it a while to decide. If you're going to work as a couple then you have the rest of your life to worry about marriage.
2007-03-18 20:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Brieanne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no time limit to getting married. Why don't you two discuss the time of year you'd like to get married and then decide if you can have the kind of wedding you want in that time frame this year, or if you need to wait till next year or the year after that. 6 months is a really short time. For some couples it falls apart after that, for others it continues along great. Make a plan and then, especially if you're engaged till next year it'll give you the time to plan the wedding you want and others time to get used to you two getting married.
2007-03-18 21:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in 4 months and we are going through marriage classes. We are reading the book and doing excersices from the book and talking about different issues. nobody knows your true situation except you and your man, but if you really want to see if you are right for each other, go to marriage classes with your boyfriend and read the book to gether and do the excercises from the book and see if you are truly compatible. I will tell you that I was with my first love for 2 1/2 years before I realized his true colors. Also, things happen in life that change people. for instance, my fiance and I were together and then I found out he was doing bad things(not cheating on me but using drugs) I said goodbye to him and it took him hitting rock bottom before he realized and grew up. So just because someone apears to be great doesnt necessary make them great in the end......if you do it now, just be careful!
2007-03-18 22:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know you'll know. Yes six months is not alot of time but love is different these days. Some people I have knew get marry least then 6 months into the relationship and now they are happly marry for 10 years now. No problems. Do whats best for you and your boyfriends. When you know, you'll know.
2007-03-18 21:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by snicker4274 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be really charming for a really long time... then not so much. I've had boyfriends for over a year before I noticed something about them that I couldn't accept or couldn't live with or didn't respect. I mean it can take a long time to see someone's true colors. Think about all the girlfriends you've had over the years and how long it took for them to disappoint you...
2007-03-18 17:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sid74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think that you should wait, if the love is there, why should you wait. My best briend married her husband after 8 months and they have been together for 8 years and have two beautiful children.
2007-03-18 20:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to wait a little, but I know a happy couple that was only together for 5 months before the marrige. They have 2 kids and have been happy their whole marrige. I think that if it is meant to be, then you will know.
Good luck
2007-03-18 17:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by C A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it if you two are grown up. If your both of age then its would be something to consider before you have children. You might actually find that you two are more of a ONE if married. I wouldn't rush though and please you protection until you both are ready to be tied down by children....just a suggestion because unplanned children can really do harm to a relationship and finger pointing to who's fault it was....just a thought for you you to think about.
2007-03-18 17:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by garydj64804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋