I know I know what most of you are going to say.. "Just wait and it will come" I am 25 not in a rush to get married or any commitments until the right one comes along.. but I am just sick of the men who attempt to come into my life... None of them are the right ones.. I get turned off if they try to sleep with me right off the bat.. when they know i am not that kind of woman. These games and going home alone is getting tiring.. and then I see happy couples where you can just feel their love for eachother.. and I wonder "When am I going to have that passion"???
2007-03-18 10:15:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what some of you are saying.. but I am starting to think there is something wrong with me... I have beens single for almost a year now! Really by choice but I just find myself "running away" from guys.. I guess I do that if I really am not that interested in them or if they scare me off with having the wrong intentions and trying to move to fast....
2007-03-19 17:44:25 · update #1
People of the same level of maturity usually end up together. So if you're attracting the wrong type of person, you may need to put a little bit of work into yourself. The easiest way to do this is to find your passion, try some new hobbies. This may give you a boost of confidence and happiness.
Don't try to become happy by inviting someone else into your world when you're not happy as it is. This will only attract the type of person that need to feel loved as well... ie insecure, needy, and jealous people. Also if you are unhappy with your job it can manifest in SOOOOOOO many ways because you spend so much of your day upset just by being there.
I'm assuming you're meeting people like this at bars or clubs. Realize these are places that you're not going to find someone that is WORTH going out with. The caliber of the average bar/club goer is not the type you want to end up with. Try a couple classes of something new to get more social, go to a place where guys that you might like would be. Active guys? Go to a martial arts class, a rock climbing class etc.. Sensual guys? A dance class, an art exhibit etc... You can think of them on your own too based on your likes.
In order to feel like you are not "running" from them, be a little more assertive, don't feel bad about telling someone they are not your type, it's not going to kill them. In fact they'll usually respect you more for being upfront about it, instead of avoiding (running, sound familiar?) from them.
2007-03-18 10:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Waddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sista Girl, "One For You" will come when you least expect it and in the most least-likely place. How about he could be in your life right now and you just maybe overlook him or never even considered him, thinking that he is not what you are looking for. I think that if he was what you were looking for, he would also be what every other woman would be looking for, but sometimes your diamond don't really sparkle until you chip away some of the black coal on the outside. In other words, Sista, Don't look for the outer layer because that could change at a moments notice, but what is on the inside of a person is priceless. All I'm saying is, just look a little closer. Don't be surprised, that he's been there all the time. Then, therein lies that passion that you are looking for.
2007-03-18 10:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you probably want an answer from a female, sorry, but I just wanted let you know my experience, I was 20, single and in the army and feeling down about being in alaska alone after "the one" dumped me. But after so long, I gave up on feeling bad for myself and said I will find the right one. After I gathered the strength, I went and asked a girl out that worked at the PX(like an army walmart). She seemed really nice when she helped me with buying shoes, so I thought, it couldnt hurt. I wasnt after sex or anything and what would it hurt if she rejected me right. Well now we have been married 2 years. I guess the point is nothing will happen as soon as you want until you go through trial and error and take initiative, nothing will happen. Ok that sounds preachy, I didnt mean for it to, just trying to put my two cents in lol
2007-03-19 16:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jopa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really does come along naturally. If you try to rush true love, the kind of love you are going to get will not last. Open your eyes up a bit more around your world, and maybe you'll see a few guys who you can potentially date. If you feel uncomfortable dating or you feel that you need to find the one, maybe you should just take a nice break from guys, go to Hawaii or some other place by yourself or with your best girl friends, and just chill.
2007-03-18 10:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was asking myself the same question. You will meet the right person when the time is right. Trust me, if your like me and enjoy going to clubs, dont look for a soul mate in that crowd. Almost every guy just wants to get laid. If you keep your standards where you want them,you will meet the right guy.Good Luck
2007-03-22 01:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by jmillhimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-18 10:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by tuff luv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel except im a guy and I cant find a good girl. :(
2007-03-22 05:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen when you are "the one" for someone else. Don't settle for less, just continue trying. Eventually, if you continue to believe in love, it will happen.
2007-03-18 10:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Saturday at the supermarket.
2007-03-19 20:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love happens when you least expect it...It will hit you like a ton of bricks.............You dont find love....it finds you
2007-03-18 10:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by eldiablo0731 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋