i like this one guy, my best guy friend,everyone says we need to go out. well i asked him he said we are to close of friends. then why does he say he cares abt me, flirts w/ me, and gets mad if i talk to a guy? answers are deeply apperciated!
2007-03-18 09:58:28 · 14 answers · asked by Kylah O'Neal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess he's worried if you get into a close relationship and it doesn't work out, he'd loose you as a friend, and values your friendship greatly. I guess try and see if he's willing to take a chance:)
2007-03-18 10:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he might me shy. He's probably a little nervous, and isn't going to make the first move. You probably need to be a little more flirty yourself. Lean in and touch more often, and insinuate a little bit. If you think things are really amping up, and you're sitting close, move in for a kiss, but only go 90% of the way.
On the other hand he could just not find you attractive. It does happen after people have been like brother and sister for so long. You need to break that buddy buddy attitude to get over this. A great book on the subject of turning someone over that you're interested in is called "The art of seduction" by Robert Greene. Take it with a grain of salt though as it is a little bit manipulative, but it DOES have some GREAT ideas on how to be better at flirting, if you read it as a whole.
2007-03-18 17:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Waddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have just caught him off guard ...
The best kind of relationships begin with and grow the friendship.If you weren't friends first what would you do together ? what would you talk about ? Sex is fun but it isn't everything . Sounds like your guy either doesn't want to take your relationship any further or possibly it scares him a little. If he flirts with you I'd say there is an interest so maybe you need to talk to him about your relationship a little more but don't be too pushy .... guys like to take the initiative ...
Good luck !! : )
2007-03-18 17:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him that if he doesn't want to start dating you that you are going to start dating someone else and he has no right to get mad. If he only want to be friends than tell him be a friend and not flirt with you because he's sending the wrong message and it's not fair to you.
2007-03-18 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he may have deeper feelings for you, yet it's possible he may not really be in touch with this inside of himself... or he may be...and he's afraid of losing you. Real friendship is something rare and valuable, and the best foundation for any kind of relationship with someone else. Sometimes it's hard for people to admit to others (or to themselves) their deepest feelings...everyone fears rejection, especially when they truly care. If I were you, I'd let him have all the time he needs to figure out what he's feeling. If you care much for him, preserve your friendship and don't push for anything "more"...let things develop naturally, at their own pace. If it's "meant to be", then in time, it will be. If not, you will still have his friendship, and that is a wonderful gift worthy of holding on to.
2007-03-18 17:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he really does care about you... but he sees you more as a friend than girlfriend material. Let him know, that being friends is great, but he can't get on your case for having other guys in your life. If he wants to be with then cool, but if he wants to keep it as friends then he can't get upset at things that you do.
2007-03-18 17:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by dfs_berthies 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he doens't really know what he wants from the relationship at the moment. He seems like he's a pretty jealous person. My guess is that he either wants to be friends with benefits or he doesn't want anyone to be in a relationship with you. He wants you all to himself.
2007-03-18 17:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by xosweetcindyxo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he wants to be single?
maybe asking him out wasnt a good idea.
you both apparently dont feel the same way about each other.
NEVER go out with your best friend. bad idea.
good luckk
2007-03-18 17:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by nicholeeeroar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he likes you, so he gets mad when you talk to other guys, and he doesnt want you with them, but he is still too scared to ask you out.
2007-03-18 17:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants more but is affraid of losing what he has. He thinks it's better to keep a friend instead of risking a friendship by dating.
2007-03-18 17:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋