This guy and I had a big fight about him not calling or showing up yesterday to meet my parents. We said hateful things. I don't think he will want to talk to me. I don't know what to do. I apologized for the way I went about approaching him about the situation. :( Thanks
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2007-03-18 09:56:27 · 20 answers · asked by Yeah it's me................ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first off, take the time to cool off and do not be hasty when doing or saying anything. You do not want to say something you do not mean to say and would have to take it back later.
When you are calm and collected, think about what you want to do about the situation. Decide for yourself on what went wrong and how it went wrong. Don't point out fingers since it's a "relationship", you're both in this together.
Be honest to yourself, did you overreact or did he deserved everything you said to him? Did you deserve the things he said to you? If you know that you and him are not going to work out, then it's time to find a real man that can step up to the place. But if you know that you guys just need more time and more effort from both sides, then the next thing you can do is to be humble and be the first to step up to admit mistakes.
Relationships aren't a walk in the park. It's hard work and it takes a lot of maturity, patience, understanding, good communication, trust, and most of all compromise. Talk to him and try to be reasonable. Listen to yourself when you talk and listen to him when he talks. Tell him what you are willing to do to compromise and ask him if he wants to make things work out with you. If he wants to give it another shot, tell him what you feel and what you expect of him. Most importantly, tell him that you appreciate him wanting to work things out.
Good luck!
2007-03-18 09:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Honesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.If he didn't showed up is because he is not sure about having a serious relationship yet. You shouldn't had reacted it the way you did. You didn't mention how old you are. It does make a big difference! But either way he was disrespectful by no showing up, if your parents were waiting for him. Ask him if he is not ready to meet your parents yet, and at least send them a note apologizing. Don't push him into something he doesn't want to do. You might regret it later! Good luck
2007-03-18 10:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? Did he have a good reason to not show up? If you jumped him without first finding out what happened, you were wrong. If he gave a lame excuse and you vented out of hurt or anger then you did the right thing by apologizing. You need to sit down and talk to him and find out why he didn't show, or at least call. If he is not that serious about the relationship you have to decide if you are willing to slow things down and stick it out, or try and find someone who is wanting the same things as you.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 10:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know. Recovering from a major instance of dis-respect is not a slam dunk no matter how you go about it. First, answer the question about whether you SHOULD make up. A pattern of dis-respect is not something one should tolerate. Just forgetting about it doesn't cut the mustard either because it guarantees a repeat performance. If you do feel it is worth healing the rift, talk about things you can do to avoiad a simple repetition and work on it together.
2007-03-18 10:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals a lot. Maybe he is still angry about you saying hateful things. Sometimes when people are angry they say things they do not mean. Its a good thing you apologized. BUT should you be the one still angry because he didnt show up? I hope he had a good excuse but from the sounds of it, he didnt. If you care about him, youll have to give him time to get over the things you said. You did the right thing by apologizing if you meant it. Now you just have to wait... but make sure he respects you at the same time....
2007-03-18 10:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by jms62394 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to cool off and then try to talk to him about the situation. Sounds like he wasn't ready for the parental step yet and he was angry with you for pushing it. When you think you are ready to break up sleep on it and if you still feel the same way after 24 hours then do it.
2007-03-18 10:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Curious at age 20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine you don't give up after one fight, but if it keeps happening then I would say yes, after all you don't want a relationship where you fight all the time, who needs that?
If he made a date to meet your parents and didn't show up he is a big jerk and maybe you should forget him, He could have at least called, how does it make you look to your parents? yes like a used fool. sorry
2007-03-18 10:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fights are normal in a relationship.
You just have to learn from it, fix it, and move on.
It's good that you apologized. He should apologize as well.
I think he just needs time to breathe or cool down.
You only give up on a relationship if you've done all you could (talked to him, put in effort, etc) and nothing is changing.
2007-03-18 09:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well every relationship has fights. fighting is actually healthy, just as long as you handle and resolve those fights in a good manner. how long have you guys been dating? if the majority of your relationship has been fighting then you might want to sit and really think about things. fighting constantly is not good, and is depressing. think of all the reasons why your with him, and all the reasons you shouldn't be. just make sure that your completly honest with yourself.
2007-03-18 10:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer that but you.
You just know when it's time. Life has a funny way of working itself out. One thing is for sure.......
There is nothing in this world that is truly that important except family. It's much too short to be fighting.
Good luck on your decision.
2007-03-18 10:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by 4X4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋