I've not spoken to my close female friend for 4 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.WE WERE NEVER A COUPLE
1 month ago she sent a txt saying the friendship is OVER and for me to get on with life.
A week later we met at a friends reunuion party,we spoke a lot but she looked hurt and uncomfortable.
At the end of the night she hugged me tightly and said take care+we'll see each other on the group roadtrip.
Today I wrote her an email(via facebook,where we've emailed ech other a few times) asking if we're still friends(was confused as she said the friendship is over).
She wrote back saying:"Yes emailings great.Yes we are still friends. Yes, I'm very busy. Yes, I'm sure you are too xx"
Why did she say the friendship is over???Would she still be angry at me for taking a break from her???SHE ANGRY WITH ME??
Will it ever be the same as before???
2007-03-18 09:54:20 · 17 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She thinks of you as a friend. You cut the ties, not her. She said the friendship was over probably because you said you wanted no contact. True friends are hard to find. She is probably not angry with you... probably don't want to hurt you anymore. She probably thinks it might be a good idea for yo u to get over her in a 'romantic way' and be only friends. And if you are unable to do that, then you need to let it end.
True friends really are for life. After 4 months of not speaking to her???? I would be angry with you too. And I would think the friendship was over if you stopped talking to me. One sided relationships happen all the time. You are the one who tossed the friendship, not her. Just because she didn't feel the same way when it comes to romance, not her fault. We cannot make feelings happen. If you want the friendship, you need to tell her that.
2007-03-18 10:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1, she was mad a 1st because she was ur friend and then u hurt her by "taking a break", and the break was probably 2 long 4 her. and then cause u hurt her she got over wallowing in her own feelings and got mad at u.
#2, she looked hurt and uncomfortable because of wat i explained above, and then it had just been there when u talked.
#3, when u wrote her and then she wrote back telling u the friendship was still over, she was still mad at u. (but i wonder how u know she was confused, i mean she probably didn't out right tell u. but i think u think that cause of the words she used and so on and so forth)
#4u have me confused with when u 1st said "(was confused as she said the friendship is over)." and then after u said She wrote back saying:"Yes emailings great.Yes we are still friends. Yes, I'm very busy. Yes, I'm sure you are too xx". did she write 2 times or wat?
so now answering the ? from the end, things won't be the same, but it might come close, like she may not talk about certain subjects and do as much stuff with u, but u will probably be happy just getting any time with her.
2007-03-18 17:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had feelings for you as well and when you broke off the friendship she was hurt.
I dont think she's actually angry with you, she's hurt and when were hurt we tend to lash out and say stuff we dont really mean, it's a defence mechanism.
Test the water with her regarding the friendship, it's a good sign if she is replying to your emials, find out how she feels about you and the friendship and take it from there!
good luck
2007-03-18 17:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably said the friendship was over as a heat-of-the-moment thing because she was frustrated rather than mad to you. I doubt things will ever be the same and she is being nice as she feels bad for shouting at you. Sorry, but that's just what I think xx
2007-03-18 17:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels rejected. Now that you have stayed away from her, she's upset as she has realised that she is not irresistible. She may well now admit she has feelings for you, but take this with a pinch of salt or you may end up hurt. I don't think your friendship will ever be the same. sorry.
2007-03-18 17:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt if I were her, but I understand where your coming from too. I would want some space and time if I fell for one of my closest friends. You two should go out to dinner or lunch or coffee and talk things over and hopefully fix your friendship.
2007-03-18 17:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by dfs_berthies 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, whenever a girl says something like yes we're still friends, it normally means that they want to be friends but u did something to hurt her.. just plain out ask her, its the best way to figure out what happened. the friendship could or could not be the same as it was before, thats up to you guys and how you work things out :)
2007-03-18 17:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she ever wanted to end the friendship. I think she was so hurt that she wanted to hurt you in return with her words.
Things should be fine between the two of you.
2007-03-18 17:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude
1.) take a step back and breathe
2.) maybe shes just a bit hurt by you in the first place
3.) maybe shes confused
4.) girls have mood swings, we are VERY temperamnetal and it sounds like she does want to be friends just dont push it to much
the friendship will blossom if you dont over feed it
xoxox
2007-03-18 16:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I reckon she has the hots for you and is playing it cool in case of rejection. Step back and she will soon be all over you (like a rash!)
2007-03-18 16:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by tonisage21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋