For example, it's important to be neutral in kid squabbles and take corrective action without seeming to be biased or unfair. It's never a good idea to favor one kid over the others.
2007-03-18 09:51:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What about just setting a good example with your actions. My children see the relationship that my husband and I have, how we work through problems and how we love one another. That sets an example as to how they should care for relationships.
Keeping a tidy home teaches respect for your things. Making sure they bath, brush their teeth and hair teaches them to respect their bodies and have self worth; as does eating healthy and exercising.
When shopping, teach how to find sales, get the best for your money. Also giving an allowance to children who do jobs around the house teaches them how to raise money for things that they would like to purchase rather than expecting mommy and daddy to buy them everything they want. It creates good moral and good ethics.
Really, it comes down to the fact that actions speak louder than words. If you act as you wish your children to act, they will follow. If you are rude, expect one thing from your children and act a different way that you don't want your children to act, they won't respect you. Simple as that.
2007-03-18 09:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by schmidtee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Democratic Or Authoritative Parenting:
Democratic parents help children learn to be responsible for themselves and to think about the consequences of their behavior. Parents do this by providing clear, reasonable expectations for their children and explanations for why they expect their children to behave in a particular manner. They monitor their children's behavior to make sure that they follow through on rules and expectations. They do this in a warm and loving manner. They often, "try to catch their children being good" and reinforcing the good behavior, rather than focusing on the bad.
If a child does something bad, you need to reason with them on their level and make them understand what it is they're being punished for. You never want to discipline your child and give the the reason for the discipline as "because i said so".
When two children are engaged in a conflict it is important to remain neutral and get each child's perspective. Take the time to help them understand each other and let them resolve the conflict as much as they can on their own. Your role should be that of a mediator, and a disciplinarian if necessary.
2007-03-18 13:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just really strict. I only listen to my kids when they approach me with a good attitude and no whining. When my kids are well disiplined and have a good attitude, we end up having alot of time for walks, board games, crafts etc. And I alwasy listen to them. Sure their ideas may seem immature and i don't understand them.. but that doesnt' make their opinion less valuable. Being a human, makes their feelings and opinions valid, whether I understand them or not. In the process I have learned that they actually have some really great advise and sometimes ask them 'what would you do'? Their opinions are so untainted. My daughter is 7 and I already respect her as an amazing human being.... but I never stop being strict. If I let her.. she would be a drama nightmare waiting to happen, lol.But as it is, we just have alot of fun. Childhood is about haning out and learning stuff... it's pretty fun being part of that
2007-03-18 10:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just agree with you 200%, there are many guidlines that you could fallow but i think what you said is very important. I was raised in a foster home that I lived for many years, and the family I lived with had their own son. The one thing that I remember to this day that I thought was sooooo "jacked up" is they treated him like a king and I was just some kid, even after the MANY years of living with them. I would get on high honor roll, "good job", he'd hit a home run, (recieved a playstation)....Sorry to tell so much but now I am an adult the things i remember is that! Treat your children fairly
2007-03-18 09:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by vanillasweetnes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've only got the one, but I think it is very important to have rules, and stick to them consistently. Children like order, not chaos.
Encourage as well, always dwell on the positive, whilst not ignoring the negatives. We can't all be good at everything. This gives a child self respect, without which there can be no respect for others.
2007-03-18 09:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Behavior and reward. Set down rules of conduct let the child know exactly what their rights in the family are (the right to stable roof over their heads, the right to wholesome nutritious food, the right to education, the right to have clothing on their backs the right to a warm comfortable environment for sleeping and above all, the right to unconditional love and support from the rest of the family), everything else are privileges that should be earned because in the earning comes the appreciation of what they earned.
2007-03-18 09:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
RESPECT, no kid can respect themselves if their parents don't respect them.
There is no innocent sibling. The one getting pummeled probably said something to deserve it.
Love, love and more love. Emotional stability comes from being loved and cared for.
Don't raise kids, teach kids to be adults. They are not different than an adult, they are just less experienced.
Touch them often. All people need hugs, kisses, a pat on the back from time to time. Kids who have physical affection, grow stronger, faster, smarter and better.
Be emotionally stable yourself. If you can't handle stress, they won't be able to.
Did I mention love and respect, these two things are the key to any relationship.
2007-03-18 10:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I can see the worse thing that ex spouses and unwed mothers do is allienate the child from the other parent. Having a parade of sex partners parade in and out of your bedroom. And trying to start a new family with a new person leaving the child from the relationship out of the loop. The best thing a parent can do is love the person they had a child with. Most of all...stop crabbing about the child support!!!!
2016-03-29 05:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with alot of the answers above me. one important thing though is to make sure u enjoy your kids. sometimes its nice to just lay back and have a good time. not everything u guys do together needs to be a learning experience or a time to discipline.
i am very strict and one thing i like to do is for my husband, my son and i to have dinner together. yesterday we had dinner inside of a tent my husband set up in the livingroom. so i mixed a little fun with dinner.
2007-03-18 11:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOVE. When my father and his siblings were writing a memoir of "life with Mama" they realized that each of the six of them thought he/she was Mama's favorite. They grew up poor but didn't know it because their home was so rich with unconditional love. That was my goal in raising my own three, and they turned out fine.
2007-03-18 10:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋