Well, I contacted my ex after 6 months - since we broke up...
I met this person last year, and we were in love, we broke up 6 months back - and today i decided to just say hi online -
1st he was very nice to me, and then after sometime, he started to act crazy - he started name calling - he said i was crazy - and then said he is in love with another women - I gave it back to him, however I just dont know why he behaved this way, or what i did to deserve this??
he was so rude, waht can i do?? what do i do abt it? why would he act this way when all i did was be nice and say hi?
are all Men like this??
2007-03-18 09:46:18 · 8 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Darlin -
first there's the shock at being contacted -
so you're cordial...
then there's the memory of the hurt -
then there's the unexpressed and festering animosity from the past -
then the venting...
Everything that ends, ends somewhat badly - no matter how amiable we act at the parting. It hurts to break up. If nothing ended badly - nothing would ever END.
We may want to be friends with our ex's... but the past is the past. Let the man go.
It's time to love yourself enough to not revisit painful things - to heal and move into the new phase of your life. You will find someone better suited to you, hon...
Just be strong and hold on.
Focus on the things in your life that bring you joy, and work at them. Try to help others in some way... this will help you feel better in return.
Not all men are like this - but this particular one is. That's all you need to know. Count yourself fortunate and walk forward.
If you always try moving forward while looking back - you'll just smack into a lot of walls.
Be at peace, hon.
2007-03-18 10:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex and leave it that way. Why are you picking up the plow again-returning to vomit?
Let it go and move on. This is a problem with women. Let go and let it go.
When I let go, it is done which makes it difficult for the person I let go because I do not believe int threats and the emotional roller coasters people go through. But when I say it is finish, it is finished because I know within my heart that I did everything that was within me to make it work and there was nothing else humanly possible for me to do.
Nothing You Can Do
Know now that there is nothing you can do when the person does not love you
You have known this for a while and this is nothing new
Whether you bend over backwards trying to please the best you can
There is no move of more love in your direction from your woman or your man
If their heart is not turned towards you to love you as God commissioned
You are headed for a life time of pain because the two hearts are partitioned
You stay because you long for a love you can call safe and feel at home
But what you really have is a false relationship and feelings of being even more alone
You stay year after year ducking and dodging the signs of relationship danger
Only nearer to the end you realize that you have given your time to a complete stranger
Afraid to get out because of current commitments and what you think you would lose
Pick a life time of continued misery or perpetual love- it’s up to you to choose
What has gotten old and has not been cherished can not be made new
Know now that there is nothing you can do when the person does not love you
When you know they do not love you
Sunday, June 18, 2006 by Arene
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2007-03-18 09:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are not good of expressing their feelings. What he wanted to say, I believe, is that he fells that you like to get back to him and he really wanted to say is no. That's it. He no longer love you and better leave him alone. It simply so happen that his actions is the only thing he know how to relate it to you.
2007-03-18 16:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rev. Fr. Jessie Somosierra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still hurting for loosing you and can't handle being friends. He has very deep wounds and I don't think I would acknowledge he exists because he is off the market to you.
2007-03-18 10:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by garydj64804 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well considering you are on the WEDDINGS forum asking this question it sounds like you hold out hopes of marrying him someday...sounds a little stalkerish to me (sorry if you were just being nice).
Just move on - who cares, he is your ex-!
2007-03-18 10:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex then leave it that way. He is your past...no going back...it didnt work the first time, it won't work the 2nd time...TRUST ME! Been there done that!
2007-03-18 10:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, some how you mad him mad or got on his nerves. Just move on. Forget about him. No, not all men are the same.
2007-03-18 09:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by uuummk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe youre a stalker and he doesnt want anything to do with you. stalkers dont know theyre stalking.
2007-03-18 09:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋