My parents are going through a rough devoirce and last night i recently told my dad how i felt.........i was crying and said some hurtful things like he was a bad dad (alcohalic) ..........every thing i said was from my heart and true........but i feel guilty for some reason........should i apalagize...........what should i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-18 09:35:22 · 8 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You didn't do anything wrong. You are putting reality in his face. He should understand. Your telling him how you feel and that is good.
2007-03-18 09:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad to know that your parents are going through a divorce, but mostly sad for you having to see them depart. It is always the children who get hurt more. You shouldn't feel guilty for telling your dad how you truly feel. Guilty is when you do something wrong, but you didn't do anything wrong at all. You said those things to him because you are hurt inside.
Your father should apologize to you and your mother for how he's been acting or for the things he's done.
I really think that the marriage can be repaired if your dad is willing to get himself some help for his drinking. He would have to be away for awhile to admit himself into a rehab program, but your mother and him need to talk this over if they truly want to keep their marriage. Hopefully, their answer will be a 'yes', for the sake of you.
The only thing you can do, is maybe suggest to your father to get some help. Your mother should do the same. If you feel that you should apologize to him, then do so. I think he needs yours and your mother's support if he is going to get some help.
2007-03-18 16:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that you still love your dad or you would not feel guilty. Its ok.
I think you should apologize for hurting his feelings because i am sure that was not your intention and let him know that it is not him as a father or person you are angry at but the things that he does and the whole divorce situation.
Don't be so hard on yourself we all say things we don't mean when we are hurt and angry.
2007-03-18 17:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by grandma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u havea right to express urself ,i've yelled at my dad a few times too and said some really hurtful things that i did mean and yea u feel guilty but he has to realize how u feel so don't feel guilty , this actually might help him in a way
2007-03-18 16:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by clutzmuch276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's okay for you to express your feelings, if thats how you really feel.
If you did hurt his feelings, just lets him know that you're sorry, but that is how you truly feel.
If he loves you he will accept this, and hopefully try to changefor the better.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 16:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy. It may hurt but i could be true. By telling the truth your gonna end up hurting someone but not intentioally.
2007-03-18 17:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Whitt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you made the right thing. this can solve the problem between your parents.when your father know his faults and mistakes he will change of his habits to make you love him.
you should apologize for the way of speaking but not for your feeling.
2007-03-18 17:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by perfectvisitor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were not wrong for telling your dad how you felt. you have the right to express your feelings. if the guilt is getting to you try talking to your dad calmly about your feelings.
2007-03-18 16:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋