I met this girl and we have gotten to know each other quite well. We have become quite close and we are now best friends. We can talk to each other about anything, anytime. Recently, as I have gotten to know her much more I think I have started to like her. She likes to tickle me and touch my hair and stuff. We always talk and hang out together. She always tells me how much she misses me and that she thinks about me a lot. We talk to each other about our dreams, and she tells me she dreams about me almost every night. However, she already has a boyfriend. I am not the kind of guy that will try to get them to break up or something, I actually talk to her about relationship problems she has with him. I am confused and I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about her. I always want to be near her when I'm not around her. My question is, should I tell her how I feel? And does it sound like she likes me? I'm afraid that our friendship will be ruined. Please help. Thanks in advance.
2007-03-18 09:28:40 · 17 answers · asked by qwerty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her how you feel but make sure she knows that you arent tryign to be a boyfriend, you can like her without being a bf
2007-03-18 09:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, great kudos for not wanting to break them up, most people would be meant buttholes like that and want to. I say you tell her how you feel. She might be under the impression you are really good friends, but because the things she is doing, I'm guessing she's indirectly flirting with you. If you tell her how you feel, maybe she will realize that she feels that way, too. If she doesn't, tho, let her know you don't want things to get weird, that way you can save the friendship if she doesn't feel the same way. believe me, i had the same situation and this girl and i are still friends after 5 years, and really great friends, too.
make sure that the time you tell her is perfect, meaning you are alone, maybe in a kind of romantic place, that way you can let her know she's special to you with your surroundings and guestures of kindness, and even if she thinks you're just a friend, she will forever hold a special place in her heart for you for thinking she's a goddess.
2007-03-18 16:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in a relationship, you should not tell her. If she breaks up with him (knock on wood, if she is happy with him) then you can wait a bit (don't just pounce) and make your move.
For after her current relationship...
Here is a post I made yesterday about friends dating titled " How do you know if your friendship with a guy is strong enough.....?" (it is the same for a guy or a girl):
In my honest opinion, never. You may seem like friends on the surface, but you won't have the same friendship that you used to have before dating. You may talk and hang out still, but it may not be the same relaxed atmosphere that it once was.
Be very careful, and make sure you have your feelings straight before attempting to progress in your relationship. Don't jump right in.
Who knows, you may not be the same on the friendship level after your relationship is done, but you never know how long your relationship will last!
2007-03-18 16:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by NEONhearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and I've always been comfortable with my best buddies (guys). Touching, hugging - I can do all that and still not come across as teasing or come-on. There's a clear cut line between best friends and boy friends...in my books, you cross the line and the relationship is doomed.
Maybe your best friend is like that too. You are her comfort zone...you are her confidante. Telling you all her love problems doesn't necessary mean she wants you to make a move on her. But, if the touching graduates to a higher level (do you detect obvious sexual overtones?), then don't be so dense - make your move now!
Stay cool!
2007-03-18 16:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Inday 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with a guy at my school. Um that is kinda hard.... it sounds like she likes u and flirts with u a lot ( always touching u and thinking about u), but friendships can get ruined in relationships. Think about it to urself....do u want her to stay ur best friend, or be ur girlfriend and maybe get hurt one day.....
2007-03-18 16:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. You have a great friendship, and telling her would make things awkward between the two of you. Which, in the case that she and her boyfriend, God forbid, did break up would lessen your chances of being an actual boyfriend, and more of just a rebound.
2007-03-18 16:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Risika Desaunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation once upon a time. TELL HER!!! It definatly sounds like she likes you. She is probably torn between her crush on you and her bf. But if she knew that you liked her back then she will probably dump her bf. Be there for her to talk to you about it. After she is over him and has healed, ask her to be your gf. If you don't do it now, you will regret it later.
2007-03-18 16:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by brenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? at least there is freedom of speech, there is no sin in expressing your feelings to her. The only thng is that you should be able to handle rejection in case she is still in love with the other guy.This should not spoil your friendship if she is a mature lady.
2007-03-18 16:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell her. if she breaks up with her bf its not your fault.. they just wernt ment to be. if you like this girl as much as your saying dont waste your time waiting for something to happen. i thought this guy i liked was in love with my best frend but i took a huge chance and told him how i felt and weve been together for almost 9 months. just take a chance. tell her that your not trying to pressure her or anything but you cant stop thinking about her. i hope everything works out and if you do tell her you have to fill me in! haha jk. (:
2007-03-18 16:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to love pride may need to take a backseat.
Otherwise you keep it inside .. not able to have room for others . Its a compliment to her, though she may still with her guy. If she leave the guy she has her choice.
Tell her. It will not destroy the frienship if you share with her your fears too. Stop torturing yourself. Love is beautiful gift to another. Its giving so open your mouth .
2007-03-18 16:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Wisdom-of-life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the fact of the matter is that no matter how you feel about this girl..........she has a boyfriend. Nothing good can come of telling her now. If she breaks up with the guy, then tell her how you feel, 'kay?
2007-03-18 16:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by Jenni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋