I find my life?

Question

pointless and am always thinking of ways to end it , I don't want to feel this way as I have a young daughter but I just can't seem to get out of it. I am on anti depressants but they are not working and when I see the Doctor he just tells me to take an extra pill. I just need to get out of this hell. Please help me.

My daughter is 4 years old and I have been on anti depressants for a year.

I feel I am so exhausted that I can't go on. There is only one Doctor in my Surgery and I have told him how I feel numerous times about how suicidal I feel but he only tells me to take an extra pill. I feel so desperate that I am at my lowest ebb.

Answer 1

you need to change doctors,think of your little girl,when you're down ring a friend or samaritans to talk

Answer 2

Just keep thinking of your daughter and how devastated she would be without her mum. Can you see another doctor at the practice and see if they can put you in touch with a professional? Anti-depressants do work but sometimes you may need to try a few different ones to find the right one. Find out what is making your life hell and what is making you feel this way and try and stop these things from happening. I don't know enough about what you are going through to suggest alternatives for you.

Answer 3

You need to get out there and do something you like, and make time for yourself. Get your hair done, by yourself a nice outfit, take a hike, see a movie, anything you enjoy. Find a hobby that you can do that takes your mind off things. I've been cake decorating for years and I find it very therapeutic and rewarding. Call a friend or family member when you are having a hard time, no matter what time it is. Your friends and family love you and your little girl especially wouldn't want to have you gone. Try to remember that:)

I know how you feel, I went threw it and probably am still going threw it at times. For me it was, I was in Mommy mode for a few years, and then all of sudden my little girl who needed me so much all the time is getting more and more independent, and now going off to school. So, now, it's like what do I do, and where did that time go? Not, that I don't enjoy my daughter, I wouldn't change it for the world. But, I forgot about myself. So, now I just try and have me time for a little bit everyday, and do special things for me once or twice a week. Many times I'd go shopping and I'd buy for my daughter, for my hubby, for the dog, etc. and I'd see things I like but just put it back. Now, I reward myself, if I see a neat belt or a pretty color lipstick I throw it in the cart.

Answer 4

Come on, you need to talk to someone about this that can really help you. Is there a reason why you feel like this? Could it be post natal depression - you do not say how old your daughter is. You must go back to your GP or if you have no confidence in him, ask to see another GP at the same practice. Is there any family or friends you can talk to for support or the Samaritans. You must go back to the doctor - you should not have to suffer like this. You are not alone. x

Answer 5

Ask your doctor if he/she can refer you for therapy as the drugs are obviously not working. It does take about 3-4 weeks before some of the antidepressants kick in though, so do give them chance, and don't stop taking them when you feel better.
It might help if you could talk to the "samaritans" 08457909090 if in the UK or add 44 to the beginning of the number if in USA. They are open 24hrs a day 7 days a week.

Answer 6

I'm Gonna share something with you now, that might make you think about things if you want to end your life....

I had a phone call from my sister last night, in floods of tears, telling me she had just found her friends husband dead, He had taken an overdose....

That image of what she saw will stay with her forever, she said its the worst thing she has ever had to experience in her life, she said it was like something out of a horror movie...

So think on this if u feel to take the easy option and end your life, and trust me theres no dignity it suicide

Think on the poor unsuspecting person who inevitabley is going to find you dead, and what impact its gonna have on there life,

Pull yourself togther, get some psychiactric help, There is so much out there these days in the way of help, and to be fair you have a daughter, isnt she worth living for even if your life is crap, Because ultimately your death will effect her more then most.....

And if your doctor is not willing to help, change your doctor, or take yourself to the local mental heath unit and tell them how you are feeling....

Answer 7

First of all get a better doctor, and try to stay positive for your daughter. Plus I know how you feel becasue a lot of the times I think what is the point of me being here then I think of all the things that I want to live to see like the Oscars next year, or what the year 2015 will be like, and what will happen in my future. The list goes on, and on. So think about what you want to live to see. Like wouldn't you want to live to see your daughter grow up, have her first boyfriend in high school, get married, and have kids of her own? To me being a parent is one of the greatest joys in life because you see your kids through it all. When their young fresh out of the womb, and you first hold them in your arms. To childhood when they are cute, to the preteen years when they start maturing, to the teen years when they grow more, and look more like adults. This stage is incredibly remarkable because it seems like only yesterday when they were young, and now they have blossomed into a whole new different person inside, and out. So hopefully during this stage they will be confident, and happy so they can approach adulthood with self-confidence, determination, and hard work. It truly is remarkable, and then you think to yourself when they are all grown up wow I did that. I had a hand in the socialization of another human being, and they grew up to be somebody I can be proud of, and call my kid. P.S. Live to enjoy the remarkable reward of being a good parent.

Answer 8

Take a deep breath , sit back and realise that you are the answer, I know it seems impossible but you can get out of this, do you have a close friend or relative you can confide in, a health visitor for your little girl, you need to do something to get help more than just take a nother pill I wish I was nearer I would come get you straight and happy again, you have lots to life for, remember your little girl cannot help you or herself you must do it for you and your girl, best of luck sweetheart I know its tough but you can doit I know I have been there.

Answer 9

Don't give up.

Go to a different doctor, ask for a second opinion.

If your in crisis- ring NHS direct.

You have the right to support and help.

Sometimes talking helps- you can ring, email or write to Samaritans and you will get a reply as fast as possible.

Meds are good if you can find one that works, but also ask for a referral to a psychologist for cognitive behavioural therapy, that's about identifying your feelings, why they are there and how to view things differently.

Answer 10

I think you should see another doctor and get them to review your medication - you are well within your rights to and given your current GP's attitude I would recommend it. I would also ask them about cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which helps to challenge negative thoughts. Many GP's are referring patients for computerised CBT to compliment anti-depressents. The most common programme is one called Beating the Blues. Many patients who have done the full course of 8 sessions said they have benefitted from it.

I would also recommend the following websites:
www.depressionalliance.org
www.mind.org.uk

Hope this is of some help.

Answer 11

i have also felt like this,and although you are on anti depressants..they may not be the right ones for you,it took me a few different brands before i found a brand and dose that best suited me...i suggest you go to the doctor and tell him/her you want to try a different one,and also to see a councillor who will support you through this difficult time