of the opposite sex. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We are divorced. But my kids are 2 and 5 and wander at night. My husband believes that itis perfectly OK if the kids walk in on him boinking his latest conquest. I don't. I date but I don't have anyone staying over on my half of the month.
I am asking for information from people who successfully placed this in their orders. How did you do it? What evidence did you present? Thanks.
2007-03-18 09:25:12 · 7 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am just amazed at how sexed we want our kids in this country. Geez.
2007-03-18 09:37:36 · update #1
I agree with you. Your ex should use more discretion when he has his children over. It would be traumatizing for a child walking in on his father having sex with another women. Jeeezzz, tell him, " can`t you wait till the kids aren`t with you"? Now if it`s someone he`s committed to then, i don`t know what you can do about it. If he`s remarried, only thing you can do is tell him to lock his door while he`s being intimate.
2007-03-18 10:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by lost2day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did it!! All I had to do was ask. I live in South Carolina but I'm sure most states have similar laws. Just tell your attorney or the judge what you told us and you should have no problem. Family courts are only looking into what is in the best interest for the kids and they can and will do this. The "paramour" will have to leave the parent's house at or before 11:30 p.m. if the children are present.
2007-03-19 00:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known anyone who has put it in their orders, I don't even think the court will allow it. You are divorced so you don't get to set your ex's moral standards and what goes on in HIS home is just that. You have no right superimposing YOUR morals on him. Remember YOU were married to him so the court is going to look at that and wonder what is so wrong with his morals now as opposed to when you married him...the kids "wandering" at night is really not an issue. All he has to do is lock his bedroom door. Viola problem solved.
2007-03-18 09:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that is a perfectly reasonable request. You can ask your lawyer to include anything you want to when you seek a divorce settlement, or you can go through your lawyer even after the divorce-- to make an addendum.
2007-03-18 09:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and am 100% on your side, I think it is sexual abuse to expose children to this and perhaps this approach might work, but you may wish to consult this issue further with an attorney.
2007-03-18 09:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by netthiefx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laws vary from state to state but, yes, you can get that put in your orders here in New Mexico! I've seen it done!!
Talk to your lawyer about it!
2007-03-18 09:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE DIVORCED.
I don't think you can tell your EX who he can and can't have over to his house.
You can talk about the situations ahead of time, and ask for his support, BUT, I don't think the court will do that.
Just ask him to LOCK his door when he's having sex.
End of discussion.
2007-03-18 09:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋