I'm suffering from a heartbreak...what can I do to feel better?

Question

Im really depressed right now...i cant think of anything else besides all those good times i spent with that one guy. I dont know what to do....anyone that has experienced this...what can i do to feel better????

Answer 1

Of course there is no easy answer. And yes, many people have experienced this. Things happen the way they're supposed to, so you have greener pastures yet ahead of you.

Answer 2

Hi,

We've all experienced a time where we thought that everything was fairytale and then for some reason, things turn sour! You really don't give alot of detail as to why the relationship ended, but for whatever reason, life must and will go on. What you have to first do is look at it as a learning experience, analyze the situation by writing down the positive and negative things that you can learn and take from the situation. For instance, if you were a person who was never really able to open up, and the person allowed you that opportunity, then this should give you confidence to know that you can communicate better with the next person you meet. Also, everything happens for a reason, and if it's meant to be, then it can happen. But, you have to love YOURSELF 100% before loving someone else. Stay busy with friends, take up a new hobby, and take it one step at a time by looking in the mirror and saying that you're beautiful and if finding love is a priority for you, work at it like looking for that dream job. Don't expect too much from the relationship--just enjoy the ride!! One last note, if this person is worth it to you, then go for it, but only YOU can control YOU and your feelings, NOT anyone elses... GOD BLESS!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

You're not alone with these kind of feelings, most people suffer heartbreak some time in their life. There is saying, " Time will heal all wounds". See a friend and talk to them or if you seriously can't handle it, see a Psychiatrist. But there is one thing, it is better to know who he is now than later, it maybe worse.

Answer 4

You are not alone in this-remeber that-almost everyone has experienced the pain of losing someone you love. Focus on moving forard, acknowledge the loss, grief a bit, it is ok to feel this way, then try to force yourself back into a routine, get out-anywhere there are people-mall, park, bookstore, ride the metro and talk to someone next to you-key is to try to keep moving...in time you will heal

if there is a chance for reconciliation...I do not know your situation....invite him to ccooupples counseling....also you might call a emotional crisi help line- kinda like an employee assistance program (EAP) there are free ones to call-look in phone book or on line search
some are:
www.asktheinternettherapist.comcounty Colorado: weight loss, depression, relationships, anxiety, stress, click on any of the topics below for your free, initial phone consultation. ...

www.advance-counseling-denver-boulder.com/free-phone-consultation.htm
I know it is denver but just tell them you live there-they will help

Answer 5

I had a friend go through this. Pretty much, I told her that someday she'd find someone better, because that's what she deserved. The same goes for you. It may hurt now, but you will get better, in time. Just be careful. Don't do anything drastic, like hurt yourself, or you'll end up being worse off than you were before.

Answer 6

Eat some ice cream and then have some chips and dip. Then have a good cry over the loss, then punch a pillow to express your anger at the situation and then go for a walk or jog to erase the first recommendations and then take each day as it comes. You will hurt for awhile but it will get better.

Answer 7

Spend some time thinking about all the horrible times - things he did to hurt you, make you feel bad, whatever caused the breakup, then get ready and go out and have some fun - with friends, go shopping, go to the beach, go for a long drive, find a new on-line friend....before you know it, this will be nothing but a bad dream.

Answer 8

Do something fun Go shopping, have a girls night out do anything to get ur mind of him.It may hurt,yes,but theres nothing you can do so just move on ok.Soon you'll get over it.When i broke up with my last boyfriend i thought that i would never get over him but eventually i did and right now im in another relationship and i so love my bf.Always remember this if you can get over a loser like him then you can get over anything.It all takes time.

Answer 9

you know what you should do is just mope
who cares i think every time you break up with sum1 one you should always give yourself time to mope a week a day a or a couple if you need
cry the whole time if you feel like it
i know when i broke up with my bf of 2 and a half years i cried for about a week and a half and then i got over it and we've been broken up for about a month and i feel wonderful and just free and dont jump into another relationship too quick becaus ethen youll just being filling up that space and not really getting anywhere.
give yourself some time to yourself
because once you get into another relationship you rally dont have anytime to your self so enjoy being single for awhile'

Answer 10

!.Watch a happy movie.2.Pamper yourself.3.Think about the bad times as well this often helps to get things into perspective.4.Buy a new warderobe.5.Have a new hairdo.6.Make new friends.7.Join a club ie sports , drama,this is a good way of healing with drama and role playing.8.Learn a new language and go on holiday.9.Be yourself. 10.Meet a nice young man.