I am currently going out with one of my best friends. We promised each other that no matter what we would still be friends. Right now things are going great but if things did turn bad how do I make sure we still stay friends?
2007-03-18 08:46:30 · 17 answers · asked by metal_mania 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough one! Two things come to mind. First, you have to both always be honest with each other, even if it hurts. If your feelings should change then you have to speak up! Things like that.
Also, if things do change don't let emotion lead you to hurt your friend. No nasty name calling. No payback. No hostility. And if the other person needs some time away to sort things out you might have to give that to them.
There is not garuntee with any of this but IF things don't work out that would be your best shot. But probably the best way to insure that it WILL work out is to just enjoy yourselves and not worry too much. You have always been friends. You know how to work things out between you. Just keep that up and see where it takes you.
2007-03-18 08:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, darlin, there is no way to completely assure that you will remain friends after a break-up. It's just one of those "calculated risks" you take in life. In my experiences, when I dated a good friend & then dealt w/ a break-up, there was often a period of awakwardness or anger or misunderstanding. Once we both healed & got on with our lives, often we were able to reconnect on the same things that made us friends in the first place, but you both have to be pretty mature mentally & emotionally to let something like a break-up go. Best bet? I would say just remind eachother often as to WHY you are friends, first & foremost. Remember all you have in common & make sure those things are held sacred. If love fades somewhere down the line, hopefully those strong ties that made you friends to begin with, won't! Best of luck!
2007-03-18 15:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to make it a "rule" that if you ever do have an argument, fight, disagreement, or whatever, that you will not call each other by mean/degrading/hurtful names. Sure, fights are unavoidable, and sometimes tempers can flare, and things can be said that hurt, but the important thing is to remember is that sometimes words spoken in anger aren't always meant, but that's doesn't mean you can't still be "civilized" to each other, and treat each other like human beings by not calling each other a bunch of demeaning and demoralizing names. Also, if you ever do say something you don't mean during a "spat", be sure to own up to it and apologize, because it is way too easy to stay mad because of something that was said in the past.
2007-03-18 16:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it promise it will promise...
if u both promise each other be friends forever and the basic of the relationship good and from the love growing so don't worry for the future live day by day... and the days shows if the person deserve to be your friend or not.. but don't worry be happy always
2007-03-18 15:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. well i think that you should tell yourself that in case things didn't work well with both of you that means that you are not getting along as a "couple", and that won't affect your friendship and you still best friends who like being together as friends only.
2007-03-18 15:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both made a gamble. With a gamble comes two endings. Win, or lose. It really depends on what happens, and how close you two get. In the long run from what I have experienced, and have seen....it will never be the same. Good luck friend...
2007-03-18 15:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Speaking from experience, it is a promise you should have never made to one another because it will be broken.
But in fact, if you were really that attracted to each other in the first place, you probably never would have been able to stay friends anyways, even if you never had dated.
2007-03-18 15:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by All Things Zen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably won't be able to stay friends after dating, especially if things did turn bad.
2007-03-18 15:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad idea dating your best friend in the first place hommie. well if you wanted to stay friends. If things do go bad be mature about it and then give her time off after the breakup and then slowly build your friendship back up again.
2007-03-18 15:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before things start to even thikn about going bad end it. You can't run it into the ground and then say let's be friends.
2007-03-18 15:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by blondieT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋