I am 23 and i am involved with a 34 year old (techinically) single mom. She has a "BF" but sees him at most 2 times a month. We kissed and "hit all the bases". she is technically cheating, but she treats me like her BF (calling everynight, dates etc) my family is upset because they think she had hidden motives (craves money, youth, company). we share mutual feelings, and we know that were not getting married or date seriously because of her kid. whenever i want to hang out with her alone i get a lecture. shes on the pill so theres a 99.9% im safe. i think she wasnt given a fair chance because of all of her baggage. i think there might be something between us.but im afraid to mention it to my family. and to add even more stress, i have a twin brother who is hawking me and dissaproves. I talked to her and she wants to be accepted by my family and date me on a small scale. She digs me, i dig her, but my family is STRONGLY stating their opinion and want me to leave her...help
2007-03-18 08:39:43 · 5 answers · asked by Angry Dragon! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the feelings are really strong. i tourture myself because i care about her so much, she cares about me. i dont understand why we cant just live in the moment for a little longer...
2007-03-18 09:46:23 · update #1
you're 23 and she's 34 ,she has a bf as you said she does not really love you if she is still in contact with the other on.after all why hurting your parents did they not provide all your needs and give you lots of affections?why don't you wait to find a girl of your age and go out for dates with her.you should listen to your parents they know whats good for you after all if all of your family is against you it is not to hurt you but to not let you ruin your peaceful life .don't you have plans for your futur like working,marrying a single girl without children yet...don't you thing you should be patient and wait.do you want to be a broken hearted?so quit her before its too late.good luck.
2007-03-18 08:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And she's probably loading all her baggage on you. You will gain nothing from this relationship. She's using you for her own purposes. If she really cared for you, she would not have another guy on the string. You aren't even sure that she hasn't got more men on the side. Best to break away now. There are a lot of younger women out there for you.
2007-03-18 15:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your family has grounded reasons to be suspicious of this woman, she is older and has a child and women like her tend to be looking for someone that can support her and her child without her help. a cash cow, now about this b/f issue...two of em does not mean she is trust worthy my advice, let her go...not for her age, or cause she has a kid but because she seems like a user, have more self esteem you deserve better.
2007-03-18 16:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family is right . . . this woman is trouble. Even if she isn't using you, and even if she wasn't cheating, it still wouldn't be a good relationship. Forget her and find a nice woman your own age. Good luck!
2007-03-18 15:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO becareful with her. She isn't "technically" cheating. She's cheating. (You either are or you are not.) And if she'll cheat on him she'll cheat on you. (Just a rule of life.) Your family is concerned because something here doesn't smell right. Proceed with caution!
2007-03-18 15:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your family, they can see right through her.
2007-03-18 15:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋