i am marry to a germany man and i m very happy with him but my problem is my family back in africa they think there is a tree that grow money here they want more and more and i need to pay for my food pay for my rent i need money for myself too , my question is how to make a stop to all this bring bring because now i am 34weeks pregnant and i need to care for my baby ?
2007-03-18 08:33:15 · 11 answers · asked by sandraintexs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's tough but you just have to be honest and tell them that your going to have a family of your own and need to start supporting this family.
You cant be expected to support 2 separate families and they need to realise this, next time they as you for money tell them you dont have it, after all you cant send what you dont have!
Good luck with this and with your new baby!
2007-03-18 10:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them that you do not have that much money to live on as it is especially seeing as you have a baby on the way. If they are really desperate for money you could start putting all your small change - cents etc, into a jar and after a couple of months take it to the bank to get counted and send that over to them. You will be surprised how much money you raise this way.
Good luck with the new baby
2007-03-18 11:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family goes through the same thing with the extended family back in Cameroon. It's a difficult situation. I think the old saying "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Chinese proverb"
is definitely applicable. Help them when it comes to getting educated and other investments that will help limit their dependance on you. Even getting them a ticket to Germany would help, seeing as you guys have free schooling. Hope that helps
2007-03-18 08:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by fratboylxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Them to come over to Germany if they can.
But the main thing is, they may want money, as Africa is poorer than Germany, so they may think you married a wealthy german man. Just give them a stern 'I have to have money to live too!'
2007-03-18 08:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alex A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's horrible! I know family is the most important thing, but you have to tell them that money doesn't come around like it used to! Tell them the truth, even though sometimes it hurts. Tell them you need the money now for your baby and yourself. You have to be honest and respectful at the same time. You can do it! Good luck and congrats to your new baby...almost! lol ;-)
2007-03-18 08:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that africa is poor, i suggest you settle them once and for all by
establishing something that will be yeilding money for them there are so many things to do in order to generate money.
if you have brothers/sisters you try and let one or two come over to germany or any other foreign country, this will less your problem.
2007-03-19 05:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a package of seeds with instructions to plant and water. Tell them if money grows, they are free to help themselves to it.
2007-03-18 08:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Germany is a rich country compare to Africa. you think you not rich but to them different thing.
2007-03-18 11:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by cold_ice23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them that you have to sustain you own home and they will have to wait until you become rich.
2007-03-18 08:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not rocket science is it? Just stop sending them money!
2007-03-18 08:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jellicoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋