I have a five year daughter and she tinks she knows everything. I ask her to do something and she will not do it I have tryed time out and everything I can think of . I have even took her Tv away from Her. She was never this bad until we had people stay with us then she gat where she was not minding at all. I am hopeing know that no one is living with she hse will straightened out. Any Ideals on how to get her to mind me and lisen to me?
2007-03-18 08:32:22 · 3 answers · asked by tnskipp 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She's five years old. You are the parent. It will take some time, but it's your job to parent her... not to be her friend. If you don't establish healthy boundaries for your household, she will get more and more out of control.
1. Be very clear with her on what type of behavior is expected.
2. As her ONCE to do what you'd like her to do. If she does it, thank her and move on...
3. If she does not mind you, it is your job as her parent to make sure she DOES mind you. Do not holler at her a second time to do it... just walk over to her and turn off the TV or whatever... take her by the arm, and say, "Mommy told you to pick up your toys." (or whatever). Once she has complied, you thank her and then allow her to return to whatever it was she was doing. In this calm and uncompromising way, you're setting a boundary that says, "I will not scream at you, but you will do what I tell you to do, because I am the parent here, whether you like it or not.. whether you like ME or not."
She's five. If you start just taking things away from her, she'll have nothing left to take away before she's seven.. and you'll have an even more difficult task to get her to mind you.
Beware... this takes concentrated effort. You have to be VERY consistant with this... EVERY time... you must first be a parent that doesn't make unreasonable demands... and then you must be a parent who enforces those demands without hesitation.
It doesn't require spanking or hollering at all... just a quiet authoritative manner in controlling the situation, no matter what she does. (oh, and if she throws a fit, do NOT beg her to be quiet... that's just ridiculous... Toss her in her room and let her throw her fit where you can't hear it.)
2007-03-18 08:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Amy S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit her down and go over the house rules. Make a chart if you have to and hang it where she can see it. Let her know up front what the consequence will be if she breaks one of the rules. If after this she still doesn't want to follow rules and you've tried time outs, taking away privileges, talking to her and everything else. A small smack on the bottom when she's broken a rule will let her know you aren't playing. Mom to 3.
2007-03-18 15:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr Phil says to strip their room bare of all toys and fun...Just a bed and clothes. Use their room for time out. Make them behave to "earn back" all their toys and fun things. Best of luck.
2007-03-18 15:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by dhoots 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋